Sister walks in with same engagement ring as you...what would you do?

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So, you both have this ring?

I have seen this same setting in three major jewelry stores.

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Anonymous wrote: I agree it is my fault. I didn't want to upset her when she asked the question initially. Yes I did congratulate them with a smile. And I do sincerely hope they are happy. I did not ask how big the diamond was or what the rating was....I would never do that. My DH did comment on how honkin huge the ring was, which broke my heart, because I know he wishes he could've given me a bigger diamond....even though that's not important to me.

Of course it is important to you or you wouldn't be obsessing about your sister's ring which is similar to your engagement ring but apparently with a much larger stone. Obviously, not the same or even identical.

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You know some women don't even desire engagement rings. Can you imagine?

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you are right. i am pathetic. i should just jump off a cliff.

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Anonymous wrote:


So, you both have this ring?

I have seen this same setting in three major jewelry stores.

If this is the ring, I am going to get me one too!
It is very nice...
No wonder your sister got the same one.

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This is totally ridiculous. You cried? I really think your reaction is extreme. What if your sister had always wanted that ring? What if was the one she used to try on before she was engaged? Maybe she cried when you walked in with it on. After the early engagement period, how often do people even look at someone else's ring? And unless the two of you are side-by-side, is anyone else going to notice that they're the same?

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Anonymous wrote:Our mother works for a big Jeweler...one of the perks is that each of your kids get a diamond ring at cost. DH and I picked out a diamond engagement ring from there when we got married. I love my ring.

My sister, who is close in age, asked me a year ago if I would mind if she got the same ring. I was shocked by the question....but said.....something to the effect of get whatever you like. So fast-forward a year, the newly engaged couple came over this weekend. My sister sporting the same engagement ring as I. I actually cried. (Not in front of her). I guess I should have told her...hell no...don't get the same ring as me. I really had no idea that it would have bothered me this much. I really don't know why you would choose to get the same ring as someone you knew...let alone your sister.

I love my husband, and love my kids. I love everything that the ring reminded me of. To me it was unique and special, and guess what I don't want to share it with anyone.

Now I look at it and I'm just reminded of the fact that my sister has the same ring.

Perhaps I need to just get over it.

Fast backward a year. She did exactly what you told her to do. Get over it. Not even bothering to read the other posts, this is so ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:You know some women don't even desire engagement rings. Can you imagine?

This is sort of my case, where it is not customary in my DH's culture to give an engagement ring; I was fine with it, probably because deep down I didn't need to have one. Sure they are lovely, etc, but they don't guarantee a solid, long-lasting marriage. Anyway, OP, your husband gave you your ring, with full heart, and I'm sure it's beautiful and not identical to your sister's. In fact, yours is "more seasoned," having been part of your lives for longer, and I'm imaging it is symbolic, that way, of your [i]loving union, your marriage, and so on. It is not the same as anyone else's ring.

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.. sorry, imagining it is ...

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Anonymous wrote:You know some women don't even desire engagement rings. Can you imagine?

This is sort of my case, where it is not customary in my DH's culture to give an engagement ring; I was fine with it, probably because deep down I didn't need to have one. Sure they are lovely, etc, but they don't guarantee a solid, long-lasting marriage. Anyway, OP, your husband gave you your ring, with full heart, and I'm sure it's beautiful and not identical to your sister's. In fact, yours is "more seasoned," having been part of your lives for longer, and I'm imaging it is symbolic, that way, of your [i]loving union, your marriage, and so on. It is not the same as anyone else's ring.

Thank you for such a beautiful sincere post. I do agree.

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There are only so many settings for a diamond and only so many metals.

Very true. And yours isn't "unique and special" if the jeweler still carries it. Honestly, this is not a big deal. Unless it came from your husband - then you'd have a problem.

Yours respresents something special to you and whether your sister or some random lady across town that you'll you'll meet at PTA is wearing the same one doesn't matter a single bit. Be happy for what you have.

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OP, you said the two are of you are close in age. Is she older or younger than you?

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Anonymous wrote:


So, you both have this ring?

I have seen this same setting in three major jewelry stores.

My kid had something like it that came with his pirate costume, but it was "rubies".

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Op, you're not at all pathetic, I'd be irritated too. I'd also say something to my sister, though it really wouldn't do much good at this point.

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OP, I'm sorry but I'm a little surprised at the gentle treatment you're getting on DCUM of all places. I'm still a little blown away by your complaint - your sister got a similar setting of engagement ring after asking your permission... and you're really upset about this? How old are you? How old are your kids? Don't you have better / bigger / more relevant things to worry about? Seriously, I get how easy it is to become obsessed with your wedding during that phase of life but once you have kids, why haven't your priorities changed? Why or how does it matter to anything or anyone if the style of her ring (but, oops, not the size) resembles yours? Sorry but you sound like someone who has forgotten what matters in life.