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My DH is the 3rd of 3 boys. I'm sure my MIL would have loved a daughter, but the thing is, once you meet your little son, you will get to know him as his own person, and then you won't be able to imagine your family any other way.
But, it's totally normal to grieve for the daughter you'll never have, and to give up the dream of family you thought you would have. |
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"But, it's totally normal to grieve for the daughter you'll never have, and to give up the dream of family you thought you would have. "
Oh, brother! |
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That seemed unnecessary, but I guess this is DCUM. |
Anonymous
This. I have two little boys. We are done having kids, but it was a little sad to realize I'd never have the daughter I'd always thought I'd have. But I wouldn't have my family any other way and I loooove my boys!! |
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OP: I hope you get three amazing daughters-in-law and a bunch of adorable grand-daughters someday!!
In the meantime, enjoy your sweet boys! 
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aprilmayjune
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My mother in law has four sons. She had a fifth pregnancy that was supposed to be her little girl, and she lost that baby. And I am her third daughter-in-law, and the mother of her fourth granddaughter. Perhaps God gave you all sons so that you will have that many more girls in your life later on in life. My mother in law taught me how to sew, she's the one I leaned on when my husband was in the army, she taught me a lot of things, she was there for me when my daughter was born and my mom couldn't.. So there's a great chance that something similar will happen in your life. Be thankful for your blessings, and you will continue to be blessed. |
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When I was pregnant with #2, someone told me, well, God gives you what you need. I like to remind my husband of this all the time, since we have two girls. I'm not particularly religious, but just consider that maybe God really does have a plan. And you should "adopt" a friend's or sibling's girl for girly outings like shopping, pedicures, etc.
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I sympathize. I have 2 girls and thought for sure I was having a boy for number 2 and was sad when i heard it was a girl. I posted on here and got FLAMED. My 1st DD is a total daddy's girl and I just wanted a boy to love me I love my second girl and couldn't imagine life without her. I sometimes look at her and wonder what it would be like if she was a boy. I thought about having a third but not sure I could do 3 girls. it is what it is...
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aprilmayjune - great post!
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| My blessings to you and your boys. They will always adore you. |
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| I've been reading this thread on and off and couldn't help but respond tonight. I've been in tears all day for a good friend of mine who has learned that her unborn son may not live after birth at worst, and at best may have significant health problems, though they just don't know for sure. She and her husband have to decide by tomorrow whether or not to terminate (for legal reasons - she is 23 weeks along and feels him kick/move all the time). Worse off, this is not her first pregnancy or major complication. After the birth of her daughter 2.5 years ago, my friend spent the first month of her daughter's life in intensive care after she developed a very rare epidural hematoma in her spine. By the time she reached the hospital that night (a week after her daughter's birth when it all came on very suddenly...timing was also very rare), she was close to never walking again and went through three surgeries and now has a permanent steel rod in her spine. She really wanted a second child but was so afraid after her first experience...but finally decided to go for it. And now this. I know that we all have our wishes and it's normal to feel this way, but I can't help reading this tonight and thinking that all of us who have healthy children should feel so incredibly grateful. I know I hugged mine a lot tighter tonight. |
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Thanks PP. As someone who is about to have our second daughter, I found this post horribly offensive. Up until we found out the gender, I was constantly being asked, "Don't you hope this one is a boy?" or "Man, I hope for your sake it is a boy." And 95% of the time it was a woman saying that. When you expect the worst, you get the worst. I don't have the closest relationship with my mom, but it doesn't mean I can't have a good one with my girls. And FWIW, I would have been thrilled if it were a boy. But it's not. And I'm just as happy. I wish women would stop bashing each other and start seeing the wonderful gifts we all have. |
aprilmayjune
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Congrats on your outlook.. I agree... Like I said before, we all need to look at our blessings.. each of our children are a blessing and we are given what we are given for a reason. |
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| 00:51, I'm very sorry to hear about your friend's situation but was your post warranted here? This could've been its own thread. |
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The point is let's get some perspective...boy, girl...as long as they are healthy, perhaps it's good to try and instead focus on being grateful for that. (Even though it can be hard sometimes.) |