Anonymous wrote:Is she surrounded by competitive Asian math nerds who grind and have no fun?

Anonymous wrote:Suggest that she emancipate herself so that she is destitute and then she can likely get full rides. Also, daughter will no longer have a relationship with controlling dad. Sounds like a win-win. Mom should likely remind dad that how he handles this will likely impact his future relationship with his daughter and any grandkids that are created. He's being a short-sighted dick.

Anonymous wrote:As a transfer student in college, I would encourage her to stay. The first semester sucks. I would encourage her to join clubs and get involved with other kids who are more fun. Also look at changing her major to something more enjoyable. As her mom, don’t feel bad for her. It is in these situations kids learn resiliency and grit. Life sucks sometimes! She can get through it.

dcmom12345 wrote:Hi,
I find myself in a difficulty situation caught between my husband and daughter. My daughter is currently a college freshman at an Ivy majoring in Math and has had a terrible experience so far. No friends, high stress, and is generally miserable. She expressed concerns over wanting to transfer in the first month but I told her to give it a little more time(until winter break) to confirm there is more than typical trouble adjusting to college issues. Well winter break came and she is more adamant than not over wanting to transfer. I accepted that and asked her what schools she was considering and this was her list(Umiami, Colgate, W&L, Syracuse, Penn State, MSU, and Florida State). DH blew up and announced he would not finance any schools on that list. He only agrees to finance her current school or another Ivy/schools he deems as ivy equivalent(not many). We don't qualify for FA and I can't afford a refusal to contribute. Her grades are good so I'm not worried about her not getting into one of her listed schools, but am dealing with either a miserable child for another 4 years or not being able to afford college. Advice?

Anonymous wrote:Which Ivy? That's important. Literally, had similar issues with DD and DH. It makes a difference if Dartmouth or Cornell (isolated or small town) vs Columbia (NYC) or Harvard (Boston). I am going to guess it is Cornell or UPenn.

I think if it is an isolated Ivy like a Brown, Dartmouth, Cornell, etc., I can see where DD is coming from. In cities, seems like more to do outside of school.

Anonymous wrote:UW Madison sounds like a perfect fit. They send 54 kids to Harvard last year for graduate school.

Anonymous wrote:Dad is being a good dad here. Making sure his daughter is getting a good education. Also, ensuring that she learns not to cut and run, just because everything is not perfect. Sometimes kids need help in building the resiliency that will be needed later in life.

If after a year she still wants to transfer then do it to another top school on dad’s list or find a way to pay for college on her own.

Kids today are far too spoiled.

Anonymous wrote:As a transfer student in college, I would encourage her to stay. The first semester sucks. I would encourage her to join clubs and get involved with other kids who are more fun. Also look at changing her major to something more enjoyable. As her mom, don’t feel bad for her. It is in these situations kids learn resiliency and grit. Life sucks sometimes! She can get through it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad is being a good dad here. Making sure his daughter is getting a good education. Also, ensuring that she learns not to cut and run, just because everything is not perfect. Sometimes kids need help in building the resiliency that will be needed later in life.

If after a year she still wants to transfer then do it to another top school on dad’s list or find a way to pay for college on her own.

Kids today are far too spoiled.

And also, they should get off your lawn, amrite?