DD didn’t make varsity, she’s crushed

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[Post New]08/17/2023 20:14
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Anonymous
No use doing a sport when your heart is not in it, that is what I have told my kids.
[Post New]08/17/2023 20:18
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Anonymous
At DD's school, they only allow Freshman and Sophomore's to be on JV. Also, if she's on a top travel team, many travel coaches will not allow players to play JV (only varsity).
[Post New]08/17/2023 21:27
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Anonymous
+1 Surprised they let a junior on JV. The juniors who did not make varsity at our school were just... gone.
[Post New]08/17/2023 22:10
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Sports is a huge friend group in HS. Leaving will change that for her. No advice other than there are unintended consequences of leaving.


My daughter as a Junior played JV. She was moved to Varsity at end of season and is Varsity now as Senior. She loves to be on a team. Have your daughter give it a go (I quit for same reason as your daughter way back when and wish I had played on).
[Post New]08/17/2023 22:20
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Anonymous
Where do they do soccer in the fall as opposed to spring?
[Post New]08/17/2023 22:23
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Anonymous
One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.
[Post New]08/17/2023 23:23
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JeeperKeeper
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Anonymous wrote:Where do they do soccer in the fall as opposed to spring?


DC and Maryland
[Post New]08/18/2023 07:42
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Anonymous
JeeperKeeper wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where do they do soccer in the fall as opposed to spring?


DC and Maryland


Thanks! I kept seeing references to this and obviously we are in Virginia so I was a little confused.
[Post New]08/18/2023 07:52
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Anonymous wrote:One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.


This OP. As a former college athlete, I always rather looked down on cross country and track. My DD got fed up with soccer in high school. She was a very athletic kid, but psychologically just couldn't deal with the pressures of soccer anymore and it was making her feel awful. She switched to cross country and track in her senior year and the only regret she had was having not discovered it sooner. So much more supportive. You can kind of pick and choose when you compete on the weekends, if academics need to take priority, and you stay active and fit and off screens for a couple hours each day. I really recommend it. JV as a junior could be pretty demoralizing.
[Post New]08/18/2023 08:03
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Anonymous
Does your daughter play a winter or spring sport? What about other activities?

If she plays another sport, and does other things (or even has a job), then I would let her drop soccer and focus on grades.

Does your school system offer school-paid tutoring? That could be an option.

If soccer is her only other non-academic thing, I would encourage her to stick with soccer, or try cross country. My friends who ran cross country loved it!
[Post New]08/18/2023 08:26
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Anonymous
Another vote for cross country. Most soccer players are great runners and have great stamina. Even if tryouts for cross country have occurred- I would have hear reach out to the coach and ask if she can do a timed mile run.
[Post New]08/18/2023 08:31
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sports is a huge friend group in HS. Leaving will change that for her. No advice other than there are unintended consequences of leaving.


She has a couple good friends that chose not to continue soccer and actually, 2-3 of her friends made the varsity team. She only has a couple friends on the JV team.

My point is this shouldn’t be an issue since her good friends won’t be on JV.


IME JV and varsity hang around. But your experience could be different.

FWIW, my kid didn’t make a coveted spot in their sport this year and wanted to quit. I asked for alternative plans that didn’t involve cellphones and other electronics. My kid chose sports because they couldn’t come up with a better plan - and is not disappointed by the choice though still working through feelings.


Varsity and JV don't really hang around.

Anonymous wrote:How is the team? Same thing happened at our school but every game was a blowout- won all games by huge margins—11-0, 5-0, etc. The kids decided the time commitment required for getting zero out of it with a tough academic important year and playing for a strong club team: it would have been pointless and taken time that wasn’t there.


The team is about average - same as the varsity team.

Anonymous wrote:Is she on a club team? If so, I’d just do that and not JV.


No club team. She's not a year around type of player.

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Anonymous wrote:Bs/Cs?! she should do tutoring after school and not soccer. Junior year is the most important.


That’s not really fair. Not everyone is capable of As and not every parent has money and transportation for tutoring.


Thank you. Some people have an odd perspective on things.


Without even a club team, she should be happy she made JV.
[Post New]08/18/2023 08:49
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Anonymous
JeeperKeeper wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where do they do soccer in the fall as opposed to spring?


Everywhere except Virginia

DC and Maryland
[Post New]08/18/2023 08:49
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Anonymous
Let your kid decide.
[Post New]08/18/2023 08:52
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Anonymous
She should ask to be a team manager for Varsity. It's fun, it's educational, she will be with her 2 friends, it looks good on college applications. If she likes it she can be a team manager in college and get scholarships money.
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