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Anonymous wrote:Obviously it will differ by couple.
A couple who both have a low need for sex might last a lifetime.
Another couple might have an open marriage and focus on children, business, or even politics together.
In a third marriage, a health issue for one spouse might be tolerated because of an overriding love and met with fidelity.
I no longer think frequent sex is a sign of a healthy marriage. I know too many women who hate their DH and are still sleeping together 3+ times a week.
But is infrequent sex a sign of a unhealthy one?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I haven’t gotten a BJ in over 10 years. I go down on her and make her have the big O. Then I finish up my part.
If you go down on her but let her get away with not giving you oral, the problem is you and you should know what to do. Why are you the only one going down?
A gay man once told me, when a woman gives a man a BJ, she is doing you a favor, when a gay man gives you a BJ, you are doing him a favor. Same thing here, many men, myself included, love going south on women, and do it for our own benefit as well as hers. I have only met one, maybe two women who shared the love of giving, and yes, I should have married them.
I like going down on my husband but I don’t like him going down on me. I know I must be weird and he offers to do it but I rarely say yes.
I was like this until I was with someone who was really incredible at oral. Now I crave it.
I like when my spouse travels, but there are pros and cons. The added workload of being the sole parent/caretaker - con. Have a big bed to myself, getting to eat when and what I want, and not having to talk to anyone after the kids are in bed - pro.