Anonymous wrote:DD4 is out of her summer daycare for the week (they close it for one week every summer), unfortunately it's the week that I started back to grad school after taking time off to have DS. I'm only taking online classes now but have a few other things to do- maybe 3 hrs/day worth of stuff. I've made plans to take DD to an activity/play date every day. I"m ok to let her watch a little more TV, etc. but she will not play alone AT ALL. She has tons of toys/puzzles/games, but isn't interested in playing with anything unless i'm right next to her. I can handle DS right now because I can manage the computer while I nurse and he can play on the floor by himself now, but I can't play with them both. DH is helpful, but not enough. I just got upset with DD now and told her to go play by herself and she's upset and shut herself in her room.

Is this normal for her age? I just need a little time, maybe an hour or so and I can do the rest after bedtime.

This is completely normal. My daughters are now grown but I remember being right where you are and wondering "when will they be okay by themselves"! Looking back I realize how pivotal this time is and I want to encourage you to embrace these moments. By around age 6 for girls and about 8 or 9 for boys they will begin to be much more independent. Until then I would encourage you to allow her to spend as much time as possible with you. Make everyday events moments of teaching, encouraging, and building up their self image. Soon the cruelty of life will become evident to your children, however if they have the steadfast memories of you and your husband being their number 1 support they can weather the difficult situations in life a lot easier. You may wonder how allowing her to be near you so much builds her self worth or makes her feel strong but I assure you it does. This does not mean that you take no time for yourself but I hope it helps you manage your time with her carefully.

With the current culture of no bullying it seems to me that bullying is still happening at an alarming rate. I'm sorry your son is being bullied. Have you spoken to his teachers and asked them to observe the situation? Maybe if your son knew his teachers were watching he would feel empowered even if he doesn't retaliate. If it escalates after speaking with the teachers make an appointment with the school administrator. Often an involved parent helps the overall situation. Prayers for wisdom as his mother and for the safety of your son.