Bully gets beat up

[Anonymous]

My son is a rough and tumble strong kid. He has been admonished for being to rough with his hands. This year at our new school boys have taken to calling him "bully" . They have also taken to hitting, kicking, punching , and pinching him. He is not defending himself because he has been told not to fight.
I explained to him that calling somebody a Bully is calling them a name which is a form of bullying. Especially if the person is not bullying. I've also told him to defend himself.
Any better suggestions?

[Anonymous]

Change schools. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Calling someone a bully who is acting like a bully is not bullying.

And why are kids calling him a bully? It's hard to give advice without knowing how much he's contributing to this situation., and you seem a bit in denial. He's a "rough and tumble kid" who gets in trouble for being "too rough"? How rough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Calling someone a bully who is acting like a bully is not bullying.

And why are kids calling him a bully? It's hard to give advice without knowing how much he's contributing to this situation., and you seem a bit in denial. He's a "rough and tumble kid" who gets in trouble for being "too rough"? How rough?

At this school he has been getting beat up period and they call him a bully. He does not fight and as much as we now implore him to he will not defend himself.

[Anonymous]

If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

[Anonymous]

In your original post you stated “he was admonished for being too rough with his hands”. Then you make it seem he is an innocent bystander. Which one is it, OP?

[Anonymous]

How old is your son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is your son?

6

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

God... what do you do..

[Anonymous]

So there have been no communications from the new school? Talk to them. Be open minded and ask them what is going on without being defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How do the new kids know about his past?

[Anonymous]

I would talk to the school about it. If your kids is telling the truth, you need to have the school involved. I suspect that you’re here instead of emailing them, though, because there’s more to this story that explains why the other kids are calling yours a bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

This story doesn't make any sense if this kid is just 6 years old unless you are conflating typical 6 year old behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How do the new kids know about his past?

This. Six-year-old boys are not especially sophisticated creatures. If they are calling your son a bully, he did something that is at least in the general vicinity of bullying--he's "being too rough with his hands" in some way. And what school is letting kindergartners/first-graders hit and kick another kid without anything happening.

You need a meeting with the staff to figure out what's going on. What is your son doing, what are these boys doing, and what is the actual dynamic.