" What the h*ll is wrong with me?! " Good Question.
Why do so many women waste their time on this nonsense?

OP:----"Sure, I could be that Alpha guy " you are an "Alpha guy", you are handling your business and taking care of your family not running away. That alpha nonsense some guys preach is simple child like selfishness. You sound like an alpha guy to me handling things and taking care of his people.

"She's thinking about the laundry and travel soccer schedule, not having wild monkey sex. " Why?? Simple she is convinced those things are more important than the relationship.


The basic problem in most of these low-sex marriage threads is the man just does not initiate!!! -- Nonsense, absolute garbage. Most of these men not initiating stopped after years of rejection. Do you know what repeated "initiation" after rejections are called? Begging and nothing says attractive like begging.

This reminds me of an article I read about a lady running a dating company. It was basically a match making service, personally done by the match maker. This woman and her staff said the majority of women ( under 40 ) coming to them to find a match were essentially delusional, self-absorbed narcissists. They had an image (overblown) of themselves in their own mind no else would associate with them. They also viewed others as worthy of being in a serious relationship with their overblown self-image and would be completely offended when a man didnt want to date them.

Gheeeee, you think may be he figured out he is married to someone that faked attraction and used him? Do you think it might suck to realize you played like an idiot by someone you "adored"?
Frankly, you sound like a narcissist. " for their benefit, I'm sacrificing my happiness and desires and staying with their dad." Seems to me he is the sacrificing, after all you married someone that loved you and "adored you", he married someone "he grew on", and are wondering if you can find someone better basically you have no respect for him and he is to serve your purposes.
"It would be very hard to parent alone".......again its all about you.
If he is lucky you will tell the truth and do him a favor and let him find a good woman, there a re plenty out there and thats who you will be competing with in terms of "what are my chances at finding someone else desirable in my late 30s with two kids". Probably not that good, I suspect you may find you arent as attractive or desirable as you think you are. Maybe thats the problem, you think you are too good for him.

You need to ask a lawyer these questions, they may have serious implications if things go badly. Also, I assuming there is not a lot of income coming into the household, $2500 may be wishful thinking even if you aren't amicable. At 40 you will be expected to get a job and support yourself, temporary support if given will be based off his income not what you need. The Fairfax formula is commonly used. You need to speak with a lawyer but remember in a fight every dollar the lawyer gets is a dollar not available to you, your ex and more importantly your son.