Height

[Anonymous]

Is it over if you are a 5’4 guy? I just got out of a relationship after 9 years (30 now). I know that online dating is pretty much a no go zone for guys 5’6 and under, but also that online dating has become really the primary way of meeting people once you are done with school. Should I just not try to date women? I tick most boxes except arguably the biggest deal breaker, height.

[Anonymous]

For men dating, height isn’t the most important factor, income is.

If you are financially successful that is enough to give you plenty of dating options. If you are also handsome, have a good sense of humor, and are kind, even better. Sure there will be some women that will dismiss you on height alone, but there are plenty that won’t. I’m 5’5” and attractive. If I were doing online dating I wouldn’t enter in a height preference to filter certain heights at all- I really wouldn’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it over if you are a 5’4 guy? I just got out of a relationship after 9 years (30 now). I know that online dating is pretty much a no go zone for guys 5’6 and under, but also that online dating has become really the primary way of meeting people once you are done with school. Should I just not try to date women? I tick most boxes except arguably the biggest deal breaker, height.

Neither height, nor income are a factor to me - that's why I don't care for online dating. I can see how OLD gives you this impression with their height filters. Unfortunately, your brain is the problem- you NEED badly for women to be shallow. The only women you even notice and idolize are the shallow jerks, who in my circle are the last-one-married types.

[Anonymous]

My DH is 5'4.5". He's super hot and I've never been all that into guys over 5'8" or 5'9" anyway.

Everyone has something in their profile that is a "dealbreaker" or near-dealbreaker for someone else. No one has an unlimited dating pool. If height is the ONLY thing anyone might ding you for, you're more than fine.

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’3” so it wouldn’t be an issue for me. I have a cousin who is 5’4” who never struggled with dating, finding a partner, etc. He definitely has a dynamic personality and is very fit/masculine. Honestly, if I were you I wouldn’t focus on it, comment on it on dates, etc. - confidence is far more important and if you are emanating insecurity about your height, it will be off-putting. While there may be people who rule you out based on your height, they just aren’t for you, and that’s okay.

Online dating can be nerve-wracking, though, for a variety of reasons and can make anyone feel insecure at times; I don’t think it’s easy for anyone. So I certainly understand your concern, it’s only natural. There are definitely women out there who won’t care about your height.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’3” so it wouldn’t be an issue for me. I have a cousin who is 5’4” who never struggled with dating, finding a partner, etc. He definitely has a dynamic personality and is very fit/masculine. Honestly, if I were you I wouldn’t focus on it, comment on it on dates, etc. - confidence is far more important and if you are emanating insecurity about your height, it will be off-putting. While there may be people who rule you out based on your height, they just aren’t for you, and that’s okay.

Online dating can be nerve-wracking, though, for a variety of reasons and can make anyone feel insecure at times; I don’t think it’s easy for anyone. So I certainly understand your concern, it’s only natural. There are definitely women out there who won’t care about your height.

Just to add - I don’t mean to say that you shouldn’t *ever* comment on it, of course it might come up naturally in conversation but I just meant you should try not to let insecurity/self-consciousness dominate, that’s all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’3” so it wouldn’t be an issue for me. I have a cousin who is 5’4” who never struggled with dating, finding a partner, etc. He definitely has a dynamic personality and is very fit/masculine. Honestly, if I were you I wouldn’t focus on it, comment on it on dates, etc. - confidence is far more important and if you are emanating insecurity about your height, it will be off-putting. While there may be people who rule you out based on your height, they just aren’t for you, and that’s okay.

Online dating can be nerve-wracking, though, for a variety of reasons and can make anyone feel insecure at times; I don’t think it’s easy for anyone. So I certainly understand your concern, it’s only natural. There are definitely women out there who won’t care about your height.

Just to add - I don’t mean to say that you shouldn’t *ever* comment on it, of course it might come up naturally in conversation but I just meant you should try not to let insecurity/self-consciousness dominate, that’s all.

Agree. Insecurity is a huge turn off. Your height is not in your control. If you are happy with yourself, others will be too. And never ask a woman not to wear heels.

[Anonymous]

I’m a 5 ft 9 in thin woman (124). Height doesn’t matter to me at all. It’s about the person.

[Anonymous]

I’ll admit I’m more attracted to taller guys, but it’s not a dealbreaker. I’ve dated 5’4 because of who they were as a person and didn’t mind one bit.

Sort of like, my cup size is AA on a good day, and while I’m sure most men would prefer larger breasts, the ones who genuinely like me don’t mind.

[Anonymous]

Chances are you will have to date women who are probably great but also have a physical quality that makes many men overlook getting to know them.

[Anonymous]

My nephew is 5'8'' (many consider that short) but has never had a problem dating. He has dated mostly women his height and is currently engaged to a wonderful, beautiful woman who is his same height and much taller when she wears heals!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew is 5'8'' (many consider that short) but has never had a problem dating. He has dated mostly women his height and is currently engaged to a wonderful, beautiful woman who is his same height and much taller when she wears heals!

My 5'9.5" wife wouldn't have ruled out your 5'8" nephew. She would have ruled out 5'4". I've never seen her in heels in 20 years with her fwiw.

[Anonymous]

My 5’4 daughter is dating a guy who also is 5’4. She’s completely smitten with him and I’m pretty sure does not notice his height at all. He has a fantastic, fun and caring personality.

[Anonymous]

A friend and coworker of mine is about 5’4”. He sorta looks like Kevin Hart. It used to be fun to hang out with him because there were always hot women in orbit. A lot of them. He’s pretty fun to hang out with and has a lot of charisma - so that didn’t hurt. He ended up marrying a coworker half his age. She’s, of course, beautiful like the women he hung out with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For men dating, height isn’t the most important factor, income is.

If you are financially successful that is enough to give you plenty of dating options. If you are also handsome, have a good sense of humor, and are kind, even better. Sure there will be some women that will dismiss you on height alone, but there are plenty that won’t. I’m 5’5” and attractive. If I were doing online dating I wouldn’t enter in a height preference to filter certain heights at all- I really wouldn’t care.

Sorry, height is a way bigger factor than income for me. I need someone at least as tall as I am.