Height

[Anonymous]

Never give up. You just have to accept you are playing the game on ultra difficult mode. It sucks and is grossly unfair. Even at 5’8”, I’ve lost out in favor of men for whom the only thing going for them is a couple of extra inches in height. That said, it’s totally doable if you bring good things to the table and proceed with the appropriate elan. Don’t get hung up on how much easier it is for others, focus on finding someone good for you.

[Anonymous]

When I've met men out in the world and had relationships with them, they've tended for whatever reason to be over 6 feet. I'm 5'1. Online dating, I've been on dates with guys 5'4 to 6'3 and I was attracted to several of them without regard to height. I was attracted to their face and personality (and not their income, wtf? more like their financial stability I consider for something longer term.) I agree, don't worry about it. I didn't realize it at first prior to OLD, but I couldn't care less. You wouldn't want to be with a woman who did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I've met men out in the world and had relationships with them, they've tended for whatever reason to be over 6 feet. I'm 5'1. Online dating, I've been on dates with guys 5'4 to 6'3 and I was attracted to several of them without regard to height. I was attracted to their face and personality (and not their income, wtf? more like their financial stability I consider for something longer term.) I agree, don't worry about it. I didn't realize it at first prior to OLD, but I couldn't care less. You wouldn't want to be with a woman who did.

Financially stable usually means making good money, though "good money" is relative to col.

[Anonymous]

No short dudes.

Sorry not sorry. Just the way it is.

[Anonymous]

OP, on the contrary, I think online dating would be great for you AS LONG AS YOU'RE HONEST. You will only get dates with women who are ok with your height. They're pre-screening themselves! The only way you'll screw this up is if you lie. If you so much as pad with an inch, and your date feels duped, it's over.

[Anonymous]

PP is absolutely correct. Do not fudge your height by even a half inch. Be honest and let the throwaway women who won't date someone your height weed themselves out.

[Anonymous]

Being shorter is all about confidence.

To a PPs comment about online dating being better because it will pre-select those fine with your height — a friend of mine is like 5’6” or 5’7” and gets very few messages/requests/responses. There may be other factors but height has got to be a principal one, based on the number of women I know on dating apps who select on height.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being shorter is all about confidence.

To a PPs comment about online dating being better because it will pre-select those fine with your height — a friend of mine is like 5’6” or 5’7” and gets very few messages/requests/responses. There may be other factors but height has got to be a principal one, based on the number of women I know on dating apps who select on height.

The problem with online dating is that women are much pickier on these platforms with respect to height. Another factor is the automatic filters a lot of these sites have. Many women who would have dated you if they knew you in person beforehand wont even see you on an app because they’ve set the filter to be 5’9+ or whatever. Guys, you really need to get off the apps if you want to meet quality women. The idea that you HAVE to date online these days is complete BS, just look at the damn ratio it’s 5 or more men for every 1 woman. The math alone makes online dating ridiculously futile for a guy who isn’t in the top 20-30% of physical attractiveness. I know tons of average guys who date above their league and not a single one uses apps… this is not a coincidence.

[Anonymous]

Won’t date a man under 6’1. Who cares, it’s all preferences. Let the smaller men have a little hope in the world.

[Anonymous]

Yup, it’s over, manlet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I've met men out in the world and had relationships with them, they've tended for whatever reason to be over 6 feet. I'm 5'1. Online dating, I've been on dates with guys 5'4 to 6'3 and I was attracted to several of them without regard to height. I was attracted to their face and personality (and not their income, wtf? more like their financial stability I consider for something longer term.) I agree, don't worry about it. I didn't realize it at first prior to OLD, but I couldn't care less. You wouldn't want to be with a woman who did.

I have a friend your size and she never had a problem getting a date. She ended up marrying a guy over 6 ft. Tall guys like the petite girls.

[Anonymous]

I feel like short guys don't want to date really short women, like 4'11" to 5". What height limit do short guys put on their online profile?

I once went out with some friends, where one guy was like 5'5" maybe, and he said something to me like "attractive, but short".. along those lines. I'm like 4'11" now (I swear I shrunk).

Guys I dated were over 5'10". They didn't seem to have issues with my height. I married a 6'3 guy. It's the short ones that didn't seem to like the short girls, at least that was my experience.

[Anonymous]

I dated a 5'4" guy for several years in my 20s, and while he was mostly a wonderful guy, he clearly had a complex about his height, to the point that it began affecting our relationship more than his height ever would have. While I'll admit I prefer taller guys (DH is 6'1"), I am not tall myself (5'5") and had no issue dating guys around my height. It was more the insecurities/complex that went with the low height that bothered me. That said, yes, I do think most (but not all) women prefer men on the taller side. That doesn't mean you are out of luck at all - just means you will have to be totally honest about your height in online dating and a woman who doesn't care will swipe right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I've met men out in the world and had relationships with them, they've tended for whatever reason to be over 6 feet. I'm 5'1. Online dating, I've been on dates with guys 5'4 to 6'3 and I was attracted to several of them without regard to height. I was attracted to their face and personality (and not their income, wtf? more like their financial stability I consider for something longer term.) I agree, don't worry about it. I didn't realize it at first prior to OLD, but I couldn't care less. You wouldn't want to be with a woman who did.

I have a friend your size and she never had a problem getting a date. She ended up marrying a guy over 6 ft. Tall guys like the petite girls.

This has been remarkably true IME as well. I have three close female friends who all hover around the 5' mark. Each one is married to a dude 6'+. I wonder if this makes it even harder for the short guys to find someone - petite women seem to get snatched up by the taller guys, and average/tall women want to date men at least as tall as they are.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you willing to date women who are overweight or otherwise not conventionally beautiful?