Height

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Anonymous wrote:When I've met men out in the world and had relationships with them, they've tended for whatever reason to be over 6 feet. I'm 5'1. Online dating, I've been on dates with guys 5'4 to 6'3 and I was attracted to several of them without regard to height. I was attracted to their face and personality (and not their income, wtf? more like their financial stability I consider for something longer term.) I agree, don't worry about it. I didn't realize it at first prior to OLD, but I couldn't care less. You wouldn't want to be with a woman who did.

I have a friend your size and she never had a problem getting a date. She ended up marrying a guy over 6 ft. Tall guys like the petite girls.

This has been remarkably true IME as well. I have three close female friends who all hover around the 5' mark. Each one is married to a dude 6'+. I wonder if this makes it even harder for the short guys to find someone - petite women seem to get snatched up by the taller guys, and average/tall women want to date men at least as tall as they are.

6’2” guy here. I love shorter girls. 4’11”- 5’6”? Perfect! For some reason the hugs are just better.

I’ve mostly somehow ended up dating girls 5’7” to 5’9” though. I dated one woman who was 5’4” and loved it.

I know a number of shorter guys who have gorgeous wives. Two of them that I’m thinking of off the top of my head - their wives are both taller and beautiful.

The advice I heard years ago was “Let women think of their own reasons not to f*** you. Don’t do it for them.”

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Kinda weird that you date girls, dude.

[Anonymous]

If you have a good level of fitness, confidence, and a good career, I think you’ll be fine in the dating market, OP.

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There are many women for whom your height will be a dealbreaker. Perhaps even a majority.

But you're not looking to date everyone. You'll just need to find someone who doesn't feel that way.

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Anonymous wrote:There are many women for whom your height will be a dealbreaker. Perhaps even a majority.

But you're not looking to date everyone. You'll just need to find someone who doesn't feel that way.

This poster is on the money.

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Look elsewhere. Eastern Europe for example. There are plenty of very beautiful women there who are willing to date short guys with a good job and income.
~ Eastern European

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OP - I'm an older guy and never had to deal with online dating so can't help you there. But as another poster noted, there are many ethnic groups where an average woman would likely be shorter than you (and, sorry all you tall DCUM woman, in my personal opinion, some of the hottest at that) -- Italian women, Latin American woman, Asian woman, the possibilities are endless!

I know a man in his early 20s who is less than 5' tall who has a wonderful girlfriend now and has had a number of relationships with girls of varying duration since high school, some of whom were several inches taller than him. How? He has a personality as big as a mountain, a smile that would light up Broadway, he's smart, stays in great physical shape, and is just all around fun to be around.

As an alternative to on line dating, try activities that you enjoy where you may meet women such as coed sports leagues, music groups, academic classes, arts, whatever. And be positive. Think like that line in the old Cat Steven's (I think) song, "If I can meet 'em, I can get 'em." Good luck!

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I have friends in 30s and 40s under 5’6 using dating apps. no problem dating attractive girls. My friends are all in shape and have professional jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many women for whom your height will be a dealbreaker. Perhaps even a majority.

But you're not looking to date everyone. You'll just need to find someone who doesn't feel that way.

This poster is on the money.

Yep.

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I’m a very tall woman (5’11”) and I’ve never dated anyone 5-4, but I’ve dated several guys shorter than I am. An inch or two doesn’t matter at all. So, considering that half the women in this country are 5-4 or shorter, I honestly think you’ll be fine (as long as you’re smart, funny, easygoing, etc.).

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’3” so it wouldn’t be an issue for me. I have a cousin who is 5’4” who never struggled with dating, finding a partner, etc. He definitely has a dynamic personality and is very fit/masculine. Honestly, if I were you I wouldn’t focus on it, comment on it on dates, etc. - confidence is far more important and if you are emanating insecurity about your height, it will be off-putting. While there may be people who rule you out based on your height, they just aren’t for you, and that’s okay.

Online dating can be nerve-wracking, though, for a variety of reasons and can make anyone feel insecure at times; I don’t think it’s easy for anyone. So I certainly understand your concern, it’s only natural. There are definitely women out there who won’t care about your height.

Yes. I'm 5'9" and I've dated shorter men. DH is about the same height as me. The only off-putting thing in my dating life was the two (!) men I dated who asked me to only wear flats when I was with them. No, thanks, that insecurity is not for me!

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Anonymous wrote:Look elsewhere. Eastern Europe for example. There are plenty of very beautiful women there who are willing to date short guys with a good job and income.
~ Eastern European

This. Plaus they have sexy accents. The problem is how to meet them.

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One of my childhood friends is 5'5" and has never had a problem being in relationships. I think most of his girlfriends have been around his height, though I could be wrong. Anyway, he's confident and funny and doesn't have any hangups about his height and I think that's a big part of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’3” so it wouldn’t be an issue for me. I have a cousin who is 5’4” who never struggled with dating, finding a partner, etc. He definitely has a dynamic personality and is very fit/masculine. Honestly, if I were you I wouldn’t focus on it, comment on it on dates, etc. - confidence is far more important and if you are emanating insecurity about your height, it will be off-putting. While there may be people who rule you out based on your height, they just aren’t for you, and that’s okay.

Online dating can be nerve-wracking, though, for a variety of reasons and can make anyone feel insecure at times; I don’t think it’s easy for anyone. So I certainly understand your concern, it’s only natural. There are definitely women out there who won’t care about your height.

Yes. I'm 5'9" and I've dated shorter men. DH is about the same height as me. The only off-putting thing in my dating life was the two (!) men I dated who asked me to only wear flats when I was with them. No, thanks, that insecurity is not for me!

Yes, you are right!... there's nothing worse than dating someone who asks you not to wear heels and asks you to scrunch down in photos.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I’m more attracted to taller guys, but it’s not a dealbreaker. I’ve dated 5’4 because of who they were as a person and didn’t mind one bit.

Sort of like, my cup size is AA on a good day, and while I’m sure most men would prefer larger breasts, the ones who genuinely like me don’t mind.

This is such an apt comparison -- as a tall, flat-chested woman, I've never had an issue getting dates. My large-chested friends probably get more options but I don't actually know if they get better options.