I feel like I was a much nicer and kinder person when I was younger.

[Anonymous]

Now in my late 40s and feel like I’m angry most of the time and mostly at myself for not accomplishing lots of things.
I feel sad for turning into kind of bitter person - it’s like the younger me was a completely different and sweet person. And that person is dead.
Somehow I handled what life threw at me in a way that turned me into a worse person than before… I realize that life is terminal and that does not help the current bitterness.

At the same time, a lot of people would probably look at me as well-accomplished in terms of personal and career life.
It’s just never enough for me. I manage to find something missing always… always.

[Anonymous]

Ha! Wait til menopause. Then you REALLY DO lose those kinder gentler chemicals,

[Anonymous]

I’m the same way. I miss my younger self. I had so many expectations and ideas. And optimism. And interests. I basically have none of that now.

[Anonymous]

Learn to forgive yourself for lack of perfection.
Seek therapy if needed. Is this how you want to live?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Learn to forgive yourself for lack of perfection.
Seek therapy if needed. Is this how you want to live?

No - but I wake up with an intention to have a nice day which does not work out by the end of the day.
Guaranteed.
I accomplished more than I planned work-wise today so I found something else to be really mad about - that we got flooded… probably because we picked the wrong house… probably because the spouse actually bought it without my opinion….

This is just one example…

Therapy will make me a weak person which will make me feel even worse. It means I could not cope with something on my own!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Learn to forgive yourself for lack of perfection.
Seek therapy if needed. Is this how you want to live?

No - but I wake up with an intention to have a nice day which does not work out by the end of the day.
Guaranteed.
I accomplished more than I planned work-wise today so I found something else to be really mad about - that we got flooded… probably because we picked the wrong house… probably because the spouse actually bought it without my opinion….

This is just one example…

Therapy will make me a weak person which will make me feel even worse. It means I could not cope with something on my own!

No it does not mean you are weak at all to start therapy, it actually takes strength to reach out. I wonder if you just stopped letting yourself feel...all feelings. Beneath the anger there may be hurt or vulnerability....but you ignore those aspects of yourself maybe? This hardens you versus getting softer as you age, which is really not weakness..it's an acceptance of life on life's terms which means grieving losses...and going deeper and being vulnerable. I hope you will consider treatment and perhaps thinking a bit more about what you can contribute.

[Anonymous]

I too find myself angrier as I age, but not so much at myself. My previous attitude of live at let live, be your best fabulous self, has steadily given way to a complete lack of sympathy toward people who choose to live dumpster fire lives and then yell oppression whenever anyone tries to help them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Learn to forgive yourself for lack of perfection.
Seek therapy if needed. Is this how you want to live?

No - but I wake up with an intention to have a nice day which does not work out by the end of the day.
Guaranteed.
I accomplished more than I planned work-wise today so I found something else to be really mad about - that we got flooded… probably because we picked the wrong house… probably because the spouse actually bought it without my opinion….

This is just one example…

Therapy will make me a weak person which will make me feel even worse. It means I could not cope with something on my own!

Your house got flooded? Did this just happen? Because I officially give you permission to be pissed about that, it’s stressful AF.

[Anonymous]

Corporate life turned me into a barbarian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I too find myself angrier as I age, but not so much at myself. My previous attitude of live at let live, be your best fabulous self, has steadily given way to a complete lack of sympathy toward people who choose to live dumpster fire lives and then yell oppression whenever anyone tries to help them.

Yep. Me too. I just to think being a nice, caring person was a good thing. The more I hear that it's not, the more exhausted and unsympathetic I become.

[Anonymous]

we were naïve when younger. you think it's bad now, wait until you get to late 50s or older. you will be 100000x bitter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we were naïve when younger. you think it's bad now, wait until you get to late 50s or older. you will be 100000x bitter

I was the PP right before you. I'm in my mid-50s and getting angrier by the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we were naïve when younger. you think it's bad now, wait until you get to late 50s or older. you will be 100000x bitter

Yikes why?
I am going to guess;

Unaccomplished goals?
Stuck in dead-end jobs?
Extra weight/losing good looks?
No romance?
Caring for elderly relatives and feeling stuck?
Dealing with teens/young adult children's issues?

This doesn't sound good at all.

[Anonymous]

Yes, why?

How is it that some people manage to keep their nice despite life-happens and others don’t?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:we were naïve when younger. you think it's bad now, wait until you get to late 50s or older. you will be 100000x bitter

Yikes why?
I am going to guess;

Unaccomplished goals?
Stuck in dead-end jobs?
Extra weight/losing good looks?
No romance?
Caring for elderly relatives and feeling stuck?
Dealing with teens/young adult children's issues?

This doesn't sound good at all.

Welcome to my life.