I feel like I was a much nicer and kinder person when I was younger.

[Anonymous]

I feel better about myself but have less faith in humanity now vs my 20s. Idk I think your BS tolerance just goes down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:we were naïve when younger. you think it's bad now, wait until you get to late 50s or older. you will be 100000x bitter

I was the PP right before you. I'm in my mid-50s and getting angrier by the day.

Glad I’m not alone! I’m 55 and basically think everything and everyone is annoying, my friends are a farce, angry at myself for a lot of choices I made in the last, lost all hope that my life will end up like I wanted and hoped for, just basically a grump. When I was you GI had fun, traveled a lot, let things go as far as not being annoyed so quickly, just had a great time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! Wait til menopause. Then you REALLY DO lose those kinder gentler chemicals,

YES.

Also, I no longer GAF about what people think of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, why?

How is it that some people manage to keep their nice despite life-happens and others don’t?

Coping mechanisms. To people in this area, that is a very, very foreign concept - they think other people should pay - that is not how it works.

[Anonymous]

I also felt much nicer when I was younger, but I’m sure it was due to being naive. I now have more life experiences under my belt. This last decade has been HARD. Also, at 52, the pace of change has picked up - technology, social unrest, politics, the environment, the economy. It’s overwhelming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:we were naïve when younger. you think it's bad now, wait until you get to late 50s or older. you will be 100000x bitter

I was the PP right before you. I'm in my mid-50s and getting angrier by the day.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's hormones. Seriously. I'm the same age and feel inexplicably angry sometimes. It reminds me of bad PMS. I had a hysterectomy so I no longer get periods but I definitely still feel premenstrual at times.

I feel like anyone here who isn’t menopausal can’t quite get the whole newfound crabbiness. I was probably the least crabby person most people knew back in my forties. Now that I’m early 50’s? Wouldn’t be winning that award anymore. It feels uncontrollable, too, which is what really bothers me.

[Anonymous]

I am harder-edged in my fifties because I woke up to how I've been a doormat much of my life and haven't honored (or even managed to identify) my own needs. I've needed to be more selfish, which does mean being less kind to others sometimes, especially those who tend to take advantage of kindness.

[Anonymous]

Inheritance destruction

Unfortunately, I am the youngest of four to a family that has blocked me from their lives as a black sheep due to an alleged history of impulsiveness. The stigma behind self-medicating has torn us apart way more than the actual act and the consequences of it for me the alleged guilty party. My father remarried and two became four. I’m being led to believe against my father's wishes that perhaps reduced or 86ed from this process is inevitable. My sister claims my father was broke and there is nothing there. I've come to realize my manipulating brother has sabotaged my reputation & integrity to gain access to my share even though neither of us was adopted. This scam is haunting me from financial distress to AI intervention with many destructive outcomes for me. Greed, hierarchy, and the attitude of entitlement are surfacing rapidly. I'm told that without adoption just because my “being liked” has been manipulated to “NOT LIKING ME” driven by the greed of my brother Sal. He almost killed my mother forcing the matter of power of attorney on her putting her entire savings in a cashier's check made out to him and borrowing large sums of money during her lifetime without payback. He also claims I allegedly stole from our partnership store in the mid-eighties without any documentation. He asked me to leave without pay after investing 10K into this store with no inventory liquidation shared. Lastly, I paid from my state income tax the entire amount for years due to his incompetent ability to rightfully pay his payroll tax which my 1/2 of one store of 3 had nothing to do with. My 2nd wife can confirm. This is an outrage and I ask for help in this matter. I have money I'm willing to invest fully in fighting this terrible situation where the perceived weak are overpowered by the strong... Those with the love of money & are beyond my comprehension.

Amateo Wood Seno

[Anonymous]

The world is empty but you have to go on.

[Anonymous]

There’s a book called The Female Brain that talks about how our brain chemicals/hormones change as we age. When we’re young our brains are telling us to nurture others, but those chemicals go away during perimenopause/menopause I read it about 15 years ago, so I don’t know if it’s still up-to-date.

[Anonymous]

I’m actually happier now that I’m in my 50s and divorced, without all the stress XDH caused. So YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Losing patience with children. And I teach. Unacceptable, so sometimes I feel like a shell making sure the emotions coming out of me are patient and even funny and engaging. But I’m not internally tolerant of entitled kids.

This is me. Feel fake much of the time. The good thing about masks is being able to mouth "WTF?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inheritance destruction

Unfortunately, I am the youngest of four to a family that has blocked me from their lives as a black sheep due to an alleged history of impulsiveness. The stigma behind self-medicating has torn us apart way more than the actual act and the consequences of it for me the alleged guilty party. My father remarried and two became four. I’m being led to believe against my father's wishes that perhaps reduced or 86ed from this process is inevitable. My sister claims my father was broke and there is nothing there. I've come to realize my manipulating brother has sabotaged my reputation & integrity to gain access to my share even though neither of us was adopted. This scam is haunting me from financial distress to AI intervention with many destructive outcomes for me. Greed, hierarchy, and the attitude of entitlement are surfacing rapidly. I'm told that without adoption just because my “being liked” has been manipulated to “NOT LIKING ME” driven by the greed of my brother Sal. He almost killed my mother forcing the matter of power of attorney on her putting her entire savings in a cashier's check made out to him and borrowing large sums of money during her lifetime without payback. He also claims I allegedly stole from our partnership store in the mid-eighties without any documentation. He asked me to leave without pay after investing 10K into this store with no inventory liquidation shared. Lastly, I paid from my state income tax the entire amount for years due to his incompetent ability to rightfully pay his payroll tax which my 1/2 of one store of 3 had nothing to do with. My 2nd wife can confirm. This is an outrage and I ask for help in this matter. I have money I'm willing to invest fully in fighting this terrible situation where the perceived weak are overpowered by the strong... Those with the love of money & are beyond my comprehension.

Amateo Wood Seno

You sound a little wacky