Teen's Friend's Parents Rejected her for LlGBTQ+

[Anonymous]

Our teen wants her friend to move in.

I'm okay with it.

But I want to do the right thing.

Should I talk to the parents first?

They are a nice Korean Catholic family.

[Anonymous]

How old is the teen? If under 18 don’t you have to talk to parents or else it’s kidnapping?

How are they rejecting her? What’s the severity?

[Anonymous]

Oh, they’re not going to change. Help the kid avoid homelessness.

[Anonymous]

Have they kicked the girl out? Or are they not recognizing her declared identity?

[Anonymous]

Let her stay with you. But, I'd reach out to the counselor or someone to see what her rights are, your rights (prob none), and the parents. Do you need to do anything to protects yourself and her.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Have her document what they do or say that makes her feel rejected.

She will be considered a run away. It’s not illegal to let a run away stay in your house.

She should report any “abuse” emotional/verbal to the school counselor. That will give the police a 3rd party to corroborate her situation.

[Anonymous]

Did they kick her out or just let her know they are not happy with her? Kicked out, I would let her stay but make sure the parents know she is safe. Jus unhappy with her, I think you need to talk to the parents about her staying with you for awhile.

[Anonymous]

Troll.

Should you talk to the family first? Instead of what…all of a sudden having their teen live with you full time?

[Anonymous]

I think you need to find out what "rejected" means in this case, preferably from the parents themselves.

I'm not trying to be flip or to minimize the pain of parents' nonacceptance. However, as a LGBTQ adult raising a LGBTQ kid (and a cishet kid), I can tell you that this generation is...excitable. Anything short of a personal pride parade is received as lack of acceptance.

So...figure out what "rejected" means here. Is it kind of reluctant acceptance? Confusion but general desire to understand? Or is it being thrown out of the house or threatened with violence?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to find out what "rejected" means in this case, preferably from the parents themselves.

I'm not trying to be flip or to minimize the pain of parents' nonacceptance. However, as a LGBTQ adult raising a LGBTQ kid (and a cishet kid), I can tell you that this generation is...excitable. Anything short of a personal pride parade is received as lack of acceptance.

So...figure out what "rejected" means here. Is it kind of reluctant acceptance? Confusion but general desire to understand? Or is it being thrown out of the house or threatened with violence?

All of this. I find it kind of obscene that you are immediately offering the kid a full time place to live. WTH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to find out what "rejected" means in this case, preferably from the parents themselves.

I'm not trying to be flip or to minimize the pain of parents' nonacceptance. However, as a LGBTQ adult raising a LGBTQ kid (and a cishet kid), I can tell you that this generation is...excitable. Anything short of a personal pride parade is received as lack of acceptance.

So...figure out what "rejected" means here. Is it kind of reluctant acceptance? Confusion but general desire to understand? Or is it being thrown out of the house or threatened with violence?

Agreed. And LGBTQ+ is pretty all-encompassing. Is the friend gay, trans? Wearing blue hair and calling themselves queer?

[Anonymous]

I don't know where you live OP, but you need to check on the 'tortious interference with parental rights' laws in your state if this teen isn't 18. Virginia recognizes it as a cause of action.

[Anonymous]

They are not “nice” if they reject their own child over sexuality.

Let’s get that one thing straight, right now.

There’s no such thing as a “nice” homophobe, or racist, or sexist, or xenophobe, etc. Stop with the “nice,” stop with the excuses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to find out what "rejected" means in this case, preferably from the parents themselves.

I'm not trying to be flip or to minimize the pain of parents' nonacceptance. However, as a LGBTQ adult raising a LGBTQ kid (and a cishet kid), I can tell you that this generation is...excitable. Anything short of a personal pride parade is received as lack of acceptance.

So...figure out what "rejected" means here. Is it kind of reluctant acceptance? Confusion but general desire to understand? Or is it being thrown out of the house or threatened with violence?

+1

There are still kids these days who are kicked out for their sexual identity, but I think it's less common than in my generation. Find out the details first and then gauge the level of support that would be appropriate. I also agree with potentially involving the school counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are not “nice” if they reject their own child over sexuality.

Let’s get that one thing straight, right now.

There’s no such thing as a “nice” homophobe, or racist, or sexist, or xenophobe, etc. Stop with the “nice,” stop with the excuses.

JFC, you brainless social justice warrior, can't you see the OP isn't a native speaker?? Stop with slogans already.