Teen's Friend's Parents Rejected her for LlGBTQ+

[Anonymous]

PP here. This is a hard topic, because there are transphobes whipping up fear of "sudden onset gender dysphoria" (not a real thing) and therefore it is very difficult to have a reasonable discussion on DCUM about the statistically improbably number of pre-teen and teen kids, mostly assigned female at birth, who currently identify as trans, genderqueer, nonbinary, or some other variation on gender non-conforming.

Then you add the kids who identify as cisgender but identify as som varient of queer (gay, bi, pan, poly, ace, demi, etc).

Even super accepting parents, and even LGBQ parents, can end up a little confuddled. It doesn't help that teens, developmentally, believe their generation personally invented every single human experience, and that no one born before them could possibly understand their struggle/identity.

News at 11: Teens are annoying and self-centered and not overly keen on learning from or acknowledging the experiences of their elders. Shocker!

Reasonable people (including scholars and specialists) disagree as to whether Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria is a "real thing." I happen to think it is. And I do not consider myself a transphobe.

Teens as self-centered and believing in the uniqueness of their generation? Totally agree!

[Anonymous]

PP here.

Was trying to comment on "PP here. This is a hard topic, because there are transphobes whipping up fear of "sudden onset gender dysphoria" (not a real thing) and therefore it is very difficult to have a reasonable discussion on DCUM about the statistically improbably number of pre-teen and teen kids, mostly assigned female at birth, who currently identify as trans, genderqueer, nonbinary, or some other variation on gender non-conforming.


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Reasonable people (including scholars and specialists) disagree as to whether Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria is a "real thing." I happen to think it is. And I do not consider myself a transphobe.

Teens as self-centered and believing in the uniqueness of their generation? Totally agree!

[Anonymous]

As a Japanese, I would like to concur with the other poster's comment on doing everything you can to let the Korean parents "save face". This is so, so, important, OP! You don't want to make them feel humiliated, in having their parental authority stripped away. If you do that, it will reinforce their bias: they might become more hardcore, and they definitely will not want to work with you. BTW, in Japan and Korea, age of majority is 20, and teenagers are considered to be developing children and under the authority of their parents until then.

I also agree with identifying what exactly is the degree of parental resistance. Nothing short of parents kicking this child out, or demonstrated physical abuse, would make me offer a long-term sleeping arrangement at my house. I would of course continue to welcome this child for day time hanging out, if everyone is vaccinated.