What’s the best way for a 13 year old girl to deal with mean boys?

[Anonymous]

We have friends who have a son that is a complete bully with a dismissive and machista attitude. Whenever we are invited to their place or vice versa he (he’s 14), calls our daughter ugly, irrelevant, talks about how abortion and rape are funny, bad mouths…etc…..and it doesn’t stop. We approached his father about it, but nothing has changed. So what’s the best way for our daughter to deal with this mean boy without losing her self esteem over it?

[Anonymous]

People like that would not be my friends. I would not subject my child to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People like that would not be my friends. I would not subject my child to that.

This. If your friends this behavior is acceptable why are you friends with them? Protect your child.

[Anonymous]

Unfriend. Done.

[Anonymous]

The best way for your daughter to deal is having parents that don't think she needs to find a way to deal. Are you kidding? YOU deal and stop putting her in that situation.

[Anonymous]

Kick in the nuts

[Anonymous]

Does law allow you to record him saying those things? It does in DC. The doesn't seem to be well.

[Anonymous]

????

If this isn't a troll, then you need to read the riot act to these parents and stop being their friend.

I have a teen son and a tween daughter and no parent I know would ever be OK with such behavior!

[Anonymous]

Keep inviting them over so your DD will know it's acceptable to be treated this way. The hell with her self esteem. Teach her you prefer to protect the nasty boy and it's her job to figure it out because you can't be bothered to stand up for her.

[Anonymous]

We had good friends who had an ass for a kid. One day i just had enough and declared that we would never get together with kids again. It definitely hurt the friendship, but sometimes it’s the only way.

DD should have the option to stay home if you’re hanging out with these friends. I have a 13 year old DD and she’s a pretty tough cookie - confident and comfortable speaking her mind, but this kid still sounds like too much for her, so it’s not that your DD is unassertive, it’s that this kid is too much of a jerk for most 13 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter shouldn’t have to deal with it. You should not be putting her in a situation where she is subjected to it.

[Anonymous]

My daughter's friend turned mean like that with my daughter. I think actually she was always a bully. Once I really noticed it, I really stopped encouraging them to hang out and distanced myself from her family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have friends who have a son that is a complete bully with a dismissive and machista attitude. Whenever we are invited to their place or vice versa he (he’s 14), calls our daughter ugly, irrelevant, talks about how abortion and rape are funny, bad mouths…etc…..and it doesn’t stop. We approached his father about it, but nothing has changed. So what’s the best way for our daughter to deal with this mean boy without losing her self esteem over it?

Don't...go to their house?

How is this even a question? Your poor daughter.

[Anonymous]

CUT THAT FAMILY OUT OF YOUR LIFE!

Your most important job is to keep your children safe. What that sick boy is saying to your daughter can be permanently damaging to her. Do not allow it! No halfway decent school would so why would you invite that verbal abuse into your home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have friends who have a son that is a complete bully with a dismissive and machista attitude. Whenever we are invited to their place or vice versa he (he’s 14), calls our daughter ugly, irrelevant, talks about how abortion and rape are funny, bad mouths…etc…..and it doesn’t stop. We approached his father about it, but nothing has changed. So what’s the best way for our daughter to deal with this mean boy without losing her self esteem over it?

Tell your daughter to tell her parents to do their f-ing job and protect her.