What’s the best way for a 13 year old girl to deal with mean boys?

[Anonymous]

OP, you’re disgusting.

[Anonymous]

What was the conversation you had with the boy’s dad? (Why not also with the mom?)

[Anonymous]

This isn't about "mean boys." This is about one specific boy and you're repeating the same action over and over again.

Don't involve the kids next time you see the parents. She's old enough to stay home. Leave her at home.

I wouldn't break it off with the parents but I would be honest about why the kids aren't going to get together anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have friends who have a son that is a complete bully with a dismissive and machista attitude. Whenever we are invited to their place or vice versa he (he’s 14), calls our daughter ugly, irrelevant, talks about how abortion and rape are funny, bad mouths…etc…..and it doesn’t stop. We approached his father about it, but nothing has changed. So what’s the best way for our daughter to deal with this mean boy without losing her self esteem over it?

You are kidding right? This is not about girls dealing with mean boys.

You expect to hear answers on how your daughter should deal with this bully.

This is about you. Why are you exposing your daughter to this boy/family???

Boy and his familiy would NOT be welcomed in my home at all.

- Mom of a boy

[Anonymous]

There is no way this is real.

[Anonymous]

Read what you wrote.

Why the hell do you want to expose you daughter to that? I’ve made some parenting mistakes along the way, but for crying out loud your question is: “What’s a good way to force my daughter to be abused while not hurting her self esteem?”

[Anonymous]

Put the kids behavior aside for a second, because you can’t change that. Why are you continuing to have full family get togethers with 13 and 14 yo kids who are not friends? They are older enough to stay home alone. Stop including them. Go out as adults and leave the kids out of your socializing.

[Anonymous]

So you talked to the parents about it? and they said it was ok? or did they say they don't know how to control their kid anymore?
If they accept that kind of behavior, it's best not to be their friends anymore. There are some parents who don't care and view it as it's better to be a bully than to be bullied. I don't socialize with these people. I won't ignore them entirely just not someone I would want to gather around for hours with. But, always watching and listening to how the kid behaves and display their behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have friends who have a son that is a complete bully with a dismissive and machista attitude. Whenever we are invited to their place or vice versa he (he’s 14), calls our daughter ugly, irrelevant, talks about how abortion and rape are funny, bad mouths…etc…..and it doesn’t stop. We approached his father about it, but nothing has changed. So what’s the best way for our daughter to deal with this mean boy without losing her self esteem over it?

This is way beyond mean. That type of behavior is abhorrent.
I would avoid. Does she have to go over there? Why would she lose her self esteem if she stood up to him and told him off?

[Anonymous]

This sounds crazy OP. I don't understand why you can't leave your respective teen kids home alone and visit the other family just adults? and how come your kid is agreeing to this?! I have an 8 yo that already wants to be left home if I'm going to see my friends. These are not 5 year olds you need to be dragging around with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have friends who have a son that is a complete bully with a dismissive and machista attitude. Whenever we are invited to their place or vice versa he (he’s 14), calls our daughter ugly, irrelevant, talks about how abortion and rape are funny, bad mouths…etc…..and it doesn’t stop. We approached his father about it, but nothing has changed. So what’s the best way for our daughter to deal with this mean boy without losing her self esteem over it?

Don't...go to their house?

How is this even a question? Your poor daughter.

This.
I just can't with some people on this forum.

[Anonymous]

My parents were friends with a couple whose son was a total jerk. My parents knew but were blasé. Even recently my dad reminisced how “that boy always had a few issues huh“. You’ll never regret dumping friends whose kid is an a**hole when you’ll likely not be talking ten years from now anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have friends who have a son that is a complete bully with a dismissive and machista attitude. Whenever we are invited to their place or vice versa he (he’s 14), calls our daughter ugly, irrelevant, talks about how abortion and rape are funny, bad mouths…etc…..and it doesn’t stop. We approached his father about it, but nothing has changed. So what’s the best way for our daughter to deal with this mean boy without losing her self esteem over it?

I would not be going over there much, if at all, and certainly not with our DD.

We had a couple boys on her bus who said sh-- like that, so we couldn't escape it. We told her to ignore and that there would always be d-bag boys (and girls for sure, but def boys do this stuff, ime) who say stuff like that. They are trying to get a rise out of you and make you feel bad about yourself. I don't know if they were threatened, needed attention, were "getting back at her" for something . . . to this day she doesn't know. The one would create IG profiles and then message her and harass her.

We talked to her about not finding her worth from what others say (esp people like this). We did this a LOT. I even gave examples of things that happened to me. She went on the bus equipped with a few comebacks but basically ignored and acted like she didn't care. She blocked all attempts as SM. The behavior got less and less and finally went away. A few years after, one of those boys had the nerve to ask "why she hated him?" LOL. She handled it well and graciously but basically said she didn't, but reminded him of some of the things he said, and ignored him from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put the kids behavior aside for a second, because you can’t change that. Why are you continuing to have full family get togethers with 13 and 14 yo kids who are not friends? They are older enough to stay home alone. Stop including them. Go out as adults and leave the kids out of your socializing.

No, why in the world would anyone hang with parents who raised that horrible kid?

[Anonymous]

OP you are either a troll or a horrible parent.

You and your DH need to protect your child. What the H?

You should not have children. What the H is wrong with you and your DH?