s/o pregnant and scared to get vaccinated, alternatives or compromises?

[Anonymous]

I posted in the CDC thread and this is for the women that are not comfortable getting the vaccine. Many of you like me expressed concern about COVID and knowing the risks and realities with getting covid. I wonder if anyone here is considering an alternative approach or how to mitigate for delivery and the last month of appointments?

I’m due in early December and I was reading the first dose of Pfizer or Moderna are like at least 54% effective against delta and 80% effective against the original strain. I wonder if I should get the first dose two or three weeks before my c section? Maybe the baby is more “cooked” but we are still protected almost like the flu shot in terms of percentage.

I do early appointments with my OB only and double mask but wonder if closer to delivery there is an alternative to give myself more protection since I’ll be spending a few days in the hospital during cold season. I’m in a lower spread area upstate btw.

[Anonymous]

I would not stagger your shots before and after your delivery. I did back in February out of necessity (there were talks of a shortage so my husband and I thought it best if I just got the shots ASAP) and I had my second shot 4 days after delivery. It was a really rough experience. I would do both before or both after.

[Anonymous]

Read up on the NICU. As a NICU mom it is a shocking and terrifying experience. Since you are increasing you likelihood of ending up there, it would be a good idea to learn what it will be like. Now is the time to check your insurance, N.iCU stays are astronomically expensive and depending on space availability you or your baby may get transferred to another hospital. This is where the financial bankruptcy can happen. Understand your policy and start saving as much as you can.

Or you can just get the shot.

[Anonymous]

I'm not really sure what you precautions you think are available outside of getting the vaccine. if there was anything else we could do, people would have probably been doing that since 2020

[Anonymous]

Also you may want to find a good therapist. It’s common for moms whose babies end up in the NICU to blame themselves even when there is no way they could have prevented it. In your case, we’ll, it would be your fault so you’ll need even more help dealing with feelings of guilt and remorse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not stagger your shots before and after your delivery. I did back in February out of necessity (there were talks of a shortage so my husband and I thought it best if I just got the shots ASAP) and I had my second shot 4 days after delivery. It was a really rough experience. I would do both before or both after.

OP here thank you for sharing was it because of the side effects of the second dose? Or just logistics of scheduling and doing it then? I’m assuming it was more difficult to get then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also you may want to find a good therapist. It’s common for moms whose babies end up in the NICU to blame themselves even when there is no way they could have prevented it. In your case, we’ll, it would be your fault so you’ll need even more help dealing with feelings of guilt and remorse.

OP here my first born had to have antibiotics and was in NICU a few days because of an infection we both had. I blame myself and I’m still dealing with those feeling of remorse and what I could have done differently at the end of the pregnancy. As you’ll see many studies have since come out that neonatal antibiotics use have all kind of issues including diminished growth and severe allergies which my son is dealing with still.

I’d deal with more feeling of remorse if I got the vaccine and my second was born with irreversible heart defect or kidney defect or possibly something else. Hence me trying to figure out an alternative path that protects him.

[Anonymous]

Stop being stupid and get vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also you may want to find a good therapist. It’s common for moms whose babies end up in the NICU to blame themselves even when there is no way they could have prevented it. In your case, we’ll, it would be your fault so you’ll need even more help dealing with feelings of guilt and remorse.

OP here my first born had to have antibiotics and was in NICU a few days because of an infection we both had. I blame myself and I’m still dealing with those feeling of remorse and what I could have done differently at the end of the pregnancy. As you’ll see many studies have since come out that neonatal antibiotics use have all kind of issues including diminished growth and severe allergies which my son is dealing with still.

I’d deal with more feeling of remorse if I got the vaccine and my second was born with irreversible heart defect or kidney defect or possibly something else. Hence me trying to figure out an alternative path that protects him.

What is the probability of this happening? What is the research behind this? And what does your OB/gyn or midwife say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also you may want to find a good therapist. It’s common for moms whose babies end up in the NICU to blame themselves even when there is no way they could have prevented it. In your case, we’ll, it would be your fault so you’ll need even more help dealing with feelings of guilt and remorse.

OP here my first born had to have antibiotics and was in NICU a few days because of an infection we both had. I blame myself and I’m still dealing with those feeling of remorse and what I could have done differently at the end of the pregnancy. As you’ll see many studies have since come out that neonatal antibiotics use have all kind of issues including diminished growth and severe allergies which my son is dealing with still.

I’d deal with more feeling of remorse if I got the vaccine and my second was born with irreversible heart defect or kidney defect or possibly something else. Hence me trying to figure out an alternative path that protects him.

That PP was being a jerk, OP. And I’m sorry your first had a rough start. So here is the thing. There is no evidence that the vaccine can cause any sort of defect or problem for babies (the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology just came out with a strong pro-vaccine statement for pregnant people) and there is a great deal of evidence that Covid can harm your baby. So in good faith, with true care, it seems like your risk perception is backward. For what it is worth if you can keep yourself cloistered for the next few months I think there is a good chance Delta will have burned through by December and your risk during delivery may be lower than it is now. May be.

[Anonymous]

OP, we don't have a lot of evidence on the impact of the baby because the vaccine is so new. Your concerns are valid. Do what you think is best.

[Anonymous]

Your baby is not going to have any heart or kidney issues from the vaccine. You are either sadly misinformed from following bad actors on Facebook or you yourself are a bad actor seeking to deceive pregnant women.

Being unvaccinated with Delta puts you are extraordinary risk of catching COVID. Being pregnant puts you and your baby at significant risk of having a severe case. Preterm birth is far worse than a few days for antibiotics.

If you are real please protect your child , get vaccinated and get off Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not stagger your shots before and after your delivery. I did back in February out of necessity (there were talks of a shortage so my husband and I thought it best if I just got the shots ASAP) and I had my second shot 4 days after delivery. It was a really rough experience. I would do both before or both after.

OP here thank you for sharing was it because of the side effects of the second dose? Or just logistics of scheduling and doing it then? I’m assuming it was more difficult to get then.

true, it might be easier for you since you literally just need to walk into any pharmacy. for me, I had to stand in line for an hour while my husband drove my 3 day old around the parking lot, and that was not easy on my body either.

the physical effects were only with me for 24 hours and it was just sheer exhaustion - probably a combination of delivery and vaccine, but my husband had to get up with me each time to watch me feed the baby because I was so scared of falling asleep while nursing.

honestly, even though it would be a much easier experience for you since you don't have to stress about the lines/shortage, I'd still suggest you do both before or both after. I think it is just one more thing you would fret about, especially if your birth doesn't go as planned or there are complications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also you may want to find a good therapist. It’s common for moms whose babies end up in the NICU to blame themselves even when there is no way they could have prevented it. In your case, we’ll, it would be your fault so you’ll need even more help dealing with feelings of guilt and remorse.

OP here my first born had to have antibiotics and was in NICU a few days because of an infection we both had. I blame myself and I’m still dealing with those feeling of remorse and what I could have done differently at the end of the pregnancy. As you’ll see many studies have since come out that neonatal antibiotics use have all kind of issues including diminished growth and severe allergies which my son is dealing with still.

I’d deal with more feeling of remorse if I got the vaccine and my second was born with irreversible heart defect or kidney defect or possibly something else. Hence me trying to figure out an alternative path that protects him.

Oddly, because of your fear, you are increasing the likelihood of the outcome you dread. Therapy, stay, to get your head on straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, we don't have a lot of evidence on the impact of the baby because the vaccine is so new. Your concerns are valid. Do what you think is best.

We have enough data to know COVID is dangerous for pregnant women. And people have been getting the shits for nearly nine months now so we would know if there were similar risks to the vaccine - they would have shown up by now.