angry at unvaccinated relatives coming on vacation
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Anonymous
| I’m not sure how to calm myself. We have a long planned vacation with DH’s parents, siblings and their families to celebrate a big anniversary. Everyone is vaccinated except 2 kids (age 2 and 7, my DS and my nephew), and DH’s brother and sister-in-law, who don’t have kids. We rented a house, we’re all coming from areas of low COVID, going to an area with low COVID. But we’re flying there. I’m just so angry at them. It feels selfish to put our littlest family members at risk. They’re trump people, maybe even Q-anon, so there was no talking to them about it. There’s no cancelling- this trip is too important to the grandparents. While I feel okay as possible with the safety (my DS is excellent about masks, we have k95 for the plane,) I can’t get over my anger. Not sure what I’m asking. Just having a hard time. |
Anonymous
| are they getting covid tests before the trip? |
Anonymous
| I don't blame you. Where are all of you staying? Can you get your own accommodations so that you don't have to be inside and unmasked with these people? |
Anonymous
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I would not go. Is your DS going to wear a kn95 the entire time? Surely not. I would cancel and not feel guilt. They should be told by the parents not to come. And I'm eating indoors, etc. with my kids, but we are all vaccinated.
At the least they should test the day before they come and then mask and re test upon arrival. |
Anonymous
| I would be angry at myself for not being willing to back out of this. |
Anonymous
This. I issued an ultimatum to my unvaccinated relative and they got vaccinated. But you have to be willing to follow through. |
Anonymous
| This is on you, OP. Don’t go if you don’t feel safe. Same for the parents of your nephew. Oh, and LOL at you putting your kid on an airplane. |
Anonymous
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The only way I'd be fine with this is if I rented my own house so that my family can stay unmasked while we eat and sleep inside. And to eat with the others, I would insist on eating outdoors. So as not to spring this on them at the last minute, I would have communicated this in advance. |
Anonymous
Yes. |
Anonymous
OP here. You may have figured this out for me. You may have been trying to be snarky, but thank you. |
Anonymous
Then I would not be too worried about this trip. You might be angry at them for not being unvaccinated in general (and being trumpsters and qanons) and getting your feelings mixed up. Bit you can also stick to your morals and not go. It really is an option. |
Anonymous
11:20 here and this can be true. Feelings can be complicated. I wish you well on whatever you decide. |
Anonymous
Honestly not trying to be snarky. Currently in the midst of trying to sort out my own messed up mix of vaccinated & unvaccinated relatives. Family relationships are going to be messy for awhile yet. |
Anonymous
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So much dumbness. GPs just have to deal that your family can’t make it; adults putting their own children at risk to please their parents, please??
I would not see my Trump siblings until kids vaccinated or pandemic is over. Flying? Don’t kid yourself. 1) kid is not wearing a mask all the time at airport and plane and could easily exposed to transmitted in a minute delta 2) “K95” for a 2 or 7? They don’t certify kids sizes, so that are just random masks shaped like KN95. They could be worse than nothing as they inhale random fibers from some knock off mask. Now if you can score legit kids KN94 AND they will wear it consistently, maybe that would be safer. But those are both long odds when flying. I mean if you are worried about kids and COVID, you shouldn’t be flying, and your unvaccinated sibling would be justified that they are not your highest risk. |
Anonymous
It’s not hard. Zoom. |