angry at unvaccinated relatives coming on vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So…it’s totally unsafe to see unvaccinated adults at a vacation house, but it’s totally safe to sit surrounded by them in an airport and on an airplane?

Got it.

Child will be wearing a mask on the airplane, not wearing a mask sharing food, eating and living with the family. 2 different scenarios!

[Anonymous]

Your kids are also the “unvaccinated relatives” you’re referring to, right? Just making sure that’s out there.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it. Things have changed A LOT in the last few weeks, what once seemed low risk is not as much anymore. I'd probably be wary of flying with kids too. What does your DH say?

What if you stayed nearby but in sperate accommodations and just visited outside?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So…it’s totally unsafe to see unvaccinated adults at a vacation house, but it’s totally safe to sit surrounded by them in an airport and on an airplane?

Got it.

Child will be wearing a mask on the airplane, not wearing a mask sharing food, eating and living with the family. 2 different scenarios!

So, this is your justification for bad behavior. Both are equally bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. Things have changed A LOT in the last few weeks, what once seemed low risk is not as much anymore. I'd probably be wary of flying with kids too. What does your DH say?

What if you stayed nearby but in sperate accommodations and just visited outside?

It was never low risk for unvaccinated kids.

[Anonymous]

I understand your anger and the importance of the vacation, but there is cancelling. You can just forfeit your $ and explain to all why you can't go. And then you can go celebrate with grandparents another way another time.

People will be all upset about it but that's the kind of thing it takes to confront and deal with this nonsense.

Do it.

[Anonymous]

Here I'll write it for you:

Hi Family,

We love you all very much but unfortunately, we are not going to be coming to the family trip. Feel free to use your room since we aren't able to cancel it.

When we planned the trip, we thought the COVID situation would be very different, and we also held out hope everyone would be vaccinated. We have consulted with our pediatrician and doctors and will be taking their advice not to travel and stay with unvaccinated people. We are not sorry for that stance, but we are sorry we didn't think to communicate this sooner.

Grandma and Grandpa, we hope you have a wonderful time and we would love to see you X dates at Y location.

We hope you all consider wearing masks to protect yourselves and others: a mild case of COVID is not good, and hospitalization still occurs in vaccinated people. We are worried about you all, especially, BIL and SIL.

Love,
Us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So…it’s totally unsafe to see unvaccinated adults at a vacation house, but it’s totally safe to sit surrounded by them in an airport and on an airplane?

Got it.

Child will be wearing a mask on the airplane, not wearing a mask sharing food, eating and living with the family. 2 different scenarios!

They are not a)wearing the mask non stop, they are kids it will come off and b) not protected by an Etsy mask, they need a fitted respirator, do you have one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are also the “unvaccinated relatives” you’re referring to, right? Just making sure that’s out there.

This whole unvaccinated argument is moot. Everyone transmits the virus if exposed regardless of vax status. Yes the unvaccinated are allowing it to spread more rapidly, but if you Mom get it, you can also spread to your kids. It's not JUST the unvax spreading it. You also put your kids at risk. Have everyone test before the trip and move forward. Or don't go. Period.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you have to do the hard thing. I’d be mad at my husband fit not standing up for your kids. We would not be going on that vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here I'll write it for you:

Hi Family,

We love you all very much but unfortunately, we are not going to be coming to the family trip. Feel free to use your room since we aren't able to cancel it.

When we planned the trip, we thought the COVID situation would be very different, and we also held out hope everyone would be vaccinated. We have consulted with our pediatrician and doctors and will be taking their advice not to travel and stay with unvaccinated people. We are not sorry for that stance, but we are sorry we didn't think to communicate this sooner.

Grandma and Grandpa, we hope you have a wonderful time and we would love to see you X dates at Y location.

We hope you all consider wearing masks to protect yourselves and others: a mild case of COVID is not good, and hospitalization still occurs in vaccinated people. We are worried about you all, especially, BIL and SIL.

Love,
Us

That is truly awful. Super condescending, self centered, and lacking in even the most basic of manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are also the “unvaccinated relatives” you’re referring to, right? Just making sure that’s out there.

This whole unvaccinated argument is moot. Everyone transmits the virus if exposed regardless of vax status. Yes the unvaccinated are allowing it to spread more rapidly, but if you Mom get it, you can also spread to your kids. It's not JUST the unvax spreading it. You also put your kids at risk. Have everyone test before the trip and move forward. Or don't go. Period.

Test before the trip and then get on a plane? Makes zero sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be angry at myself for not being willing to back out of this.

This. They are behaving unsafely. But so are you, by agreeing to the trip. You are the mom. You can say no. You are putting your unvaccinated kids on a plane and then having your kids stay in a house with unvaccinated kids. There is no way I would put my kids in this position.

+1

I promise if your child joins the more than a thousand American children currently hospitalized with COVID, you are going to feel worse than your brother and sister in law. You have a responsibility to keep your children safe that is more important than what this vacation means to the grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Cancel. The letter above is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. Things have changed A LOT in the last few weeks, what once seemed low risk is not as much anymore. I'd probably be wary of flying with kids too. What does your DH say?

What if you stayed nearby but in sperate accommodations and just visited outside?

It was never low risk for unvaccinated kids.

The risk for kids was lower when community transmission was low, do I really need to explain that? Even in states that are exploding now, cases were generally low until the beginning of July.