I hate my girlfriends mother
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Anonymous
| My girlfriend and I are so great together but I can’t stand her mother. She is the Debbie downer in every situation. She’s constantly complaining, yelling, and gossiping. She is very two faced amen constantly gossiping and talks badly about people. Shes kind of that person who calls everyone else hateful and immature, but doesn’t see that she is just like that. She is very belittling to her husband. My girlfriend had a strained relationship with her mom because of this. She has said many times she wants to move to another state and have as little contact with her as possible. She also does not want her involved with future kids because she is horrible. She is also very threatened by the close relationship my girlfriend has with my mom. I love my girlfriend and intend on marrying her and having a great future together, but how do I deal with a less than ideal in-law? |
Anonymous
| Make sure you don't live nearby. Also make sure your GF sees this about her mother before you marry her. |
Anonymous
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You both set boundaries and then enforce them.
Keep visits short. Have a good therapist for advice or coping or if there’s a flare up. Many people have this dynamic with someone in their extended family. |
Anonymous
OP here. She’s know this about her mother. She does not get along with her and told me about her before I met her family. |
Anonymous
| Don't marry this woman. Just don't |
Anonymous
| Odds are very high she will turn into her mother or feel differently once she has kids. I've seen it happen. |
Anonymous
OP here. She has been the exact opposite and I don’t think she will ever turn into her mother. |
Anonymous
Ok so you don't need our advice everything will be fine. Enjoy your move out of state , your kids, and only seeing your side of the family. |
Anonymous
| I feel like you’re describing me. My mother was an unmediated bipolar who was physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive. I got away and never talked to her except for 1-2 times a year on holidays. I moved from VA to Florida after my in-laws retired there. We never see my mom and I never talk to her. I do not want my kids to grow up seeing that. My MIL is the complete opposite and such a wonderful mother and grandma. It sucks but I’m doing what’s best for my kids. I still talk to my other family and my husband fully supports me. |
Anonymous
Not OP but he did not ask for your comment about his girlfriend possibly turning into her mom. He asked an entirely different question and you had to go and be an *ss and say that. Stay off this thread if you don’t like the response he gave you. |
Anonymous
| Be prepared not to see her father or her siblings if she has them. This may or may not be a problem for her. |
Anonymous
How about you mind your business and stop being the thread police. |
Anonymous
OP here. I never once asked for your advice concerning my girlfriend. I asked how to deal with a less than ideal in-law. Your response had nothing to do with the question I had asked. Go find another post my response offends you. |
Anonymous
OP here. Most of her siblings also have limited contact with her. They talk to their dad and each other, but they only see her on holidays. |
Anonymous
I know what you asked. You seem to think that if you leave your girlfriend's mother, (she's not your MIL yet as you all aren't married. behind your problems will be over.) I'm telling you that odds are very high your girlfriend will either turn into her mother or change her mind about being away from the family once she realizes it likely means cutting off her dad and siblings too, and that your family isn't as perfect as she thinks they are right now. |