Future FIL made derogatory comments about his son

[Anonymous]

Son is my future husband. What kind of dad says negative things about his own son to son's fiancée? I should be concerned, right?

[Anonymous]

What did he say? How close is your fiance to his dad/family?

[Anonymous]

Lot of families with messed up dynamics. I'd be worried about what you're marrying into and get a clear lay of the land with DH plus plans to offset it (move across the country, stop telling FIL certain things, build up DHs confidence if needed or you walk away)

[Anonymous]

What did he say? Was it something that you didn’t know about your fiancé’s character? I would keep it in the back of my mind and observe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did he say? Was it something that you didn’t know about your fiancé’s character? I would keep it in the back of my mind and observe.

Said he was dumping him on me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What did he say? Was it something that you didn’t know about your fiancé’s character? I would keep it in the back of my mind and observe.

Said he was dumping him on me.

Was he serious? Did he say why?
It could be a moment of frustration, or the expression of a deep-seated issue with your fiance. Why don’t you dig down before committing yourself. Wish I’d done that…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did he say? How close is your fiance to his dad/family?

They seem pretty close. I am not sure what to make of this. I don't know if it says more about the FIL than my fiance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What did he say? Was it something that you didn’t know about your fiancé’s character? I would keep it in the back of my mind and observe.

Said he was dumping him on me.

Was he serious? Did he say why?
It could be a moment of frustration, or the expression of a deep-seated issue with your fiance. Why don’t you dig down before committing yourself. Wish I’d done that…

No, just said that--like he's your problem now. SIL agreed. I'm shocked. Fiance is smart, well-educated, outgoing, interesting, king, loving, etc. I just don't know where this is coming from or what to make of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What did he say? Was it something that you didn’t know about your fiancé’s character? I would keep it in the back of my mind and observe.

Said he was dumping him on me.

Was he serious? Did he say why?
It could be a moment of frustration, or the expression of a deep-seated issue with your fiance. Why don’t you dig down before committing yourself. Wish I’d done that…

No, just said that--like he's your problem now. SIL agreed. I'm shocked. Fiance is smart, well-educated, outgoing, interesting, king, loving, etc. I just don't know where this is coming from or what to make of it.

Could it have been a joke?

Is he high energy?

[Anonymous]

1. Maybe they were joking.

2. Why do you seem so unfamiliar with your fiance's family. How long have you known your fiance? How much interaction have you had with his family?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What did he say? Was it something that you didn’t know about your fiancé’s character? I would keep it in the back of my mind and observe.

Said he was dumping him on me.

Was he serious? Did he say why?
It could be a moment of frustration, or the expression of a deep-seated issue with your fiance. Why don’t you dig down before committing yourself. Wish I’d done that…

No, just said that--like he's your problem now. SIL agreed. I'm shocked. Fiance is smart, well-educated, outgoing, interesting, king, loving, etc. I just don't know where this is coming from or what to make of it.

Could it have been a joke?

Is he high energy?

No. Future SIL agreed. It was awful.

[Anonymous]

Don't overthink it. Some people are just d-cks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Maybe they were joking.

2. Why do you seem so unfamiliar with your fiance's family. How long have you known your fiance? How much interaction have you had with his family?

Less than a year--I have interacted with them a lot but in a short period of time. There have been a few comments like this to me and now I am concerned.

[Anonymous]

I say this with kindness, but you seem a little naive/delicate/sheltered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness, but you seem a little naive/delicate/sheltered.

Not really. I think our families are just different. They are a military family and my family is not.