Waiting to Miscarry

[Anonymous]

I’m the OP who wondered about an ectopic earlier this week. It is not ectopic, but I’m at 7 weeks and a day, and there’s nothing encouraging. There’s a slow heartbeat, plus I’m measuring small, still bleeding, with an irregular sac. My gave me a 99 percent chance of inevitable embryonic demise. I’m getting another scan next week since there was a (weak) heartbeat, but basically waiting for a miscarriage. It is miserable for so many reasons, including but mild nausea (although with my two healthy pregnancies I was full-blown nausea at this point.) Did anyone have a similar situation? How long until it resolved?

[Anonymous]

OP all I can offer is Hugs.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. The worst kind of limbo. I don't have any practical advice, but just wanted to send a huge hug.

[Anonymous]

Hope is a double edged sword but I was given a similar outlook with my first. I went into mourning - absolute devastation - and long story short I now have a healthy 2 year old. I really feel like I totally missed out (understandably) on that time. Ironically when I got pregnant again I decided not to stress at all and just enjoy it because I had no symptoms to the contrary and I had a missed miscarriage. But I’m so glad I enjoyed and celebrated that pregnancy unlike what I did with the first. All of this stuff is so out of our hands, and it’s taught me a lot about control. Pregnancy is fraught with anxiety and emotion that no one talks about. Religion in my case has helped a lot too. Sending best wishes and prayers.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry, OP. Not to give you false hope but nausea is always a good sign. Similar thing but with a bad outcome happened to me at 6 weeks over the course of a few days, and I never had pregnancy symptoms. (With my daughter I had morning sickness at that time.)

[Anonymous]

When I had a missed miscarriage I also had no symptoms. I actually lost weight, which was not the case with my two healthy pregnancies.

Sending you a lot of hugs right now and hoping for a good outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. Not to give you false hope but nausea is always a good sign. Similar thing but with a bad outcome happened to me at 6 weeks over the course of a few days, and I never had pregnancy symptoms. (With my daughter I had morning sickness at that time.)

Thank you. In this case, it is mild intermittent nausea; nothing like the horrendous, grueling nausea I had with my two kids. So I’m not reading much into the nausea other than I have HCG in my system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. Not to give you false hope but nausea is always a good sign. Similar thing but with a bad outcome happened to me at 6 weeks over the course of a few days, and I never had pregnancy symptoms. (With my daughter I had morning sickness at that time.)

Thank you. In this case, it is mild intermittent nausea; nothing like the horrendous, grueling nausea I had with my two kids. So I’m not reading much into the nausea other than I have HCG in my system.

Ah, gotcha...fwiw, the dead giveaway sign for me during my miscarriage that it was time to let go and accept the loss was when I had two consecutive HCG readings that showed the amount was decreasing. Until then I kind of held out a tiny bit of hope.

[Anonymous]

OP again. This will be my third miscarriage. The first also measured days behind. I think I’m most worried now that this process will go on for weeks with an unviable pregnancy that has a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

I'm very sorry, OP. Been through this twice. The waiting is the worst part. Went on to have 2 healthy kids if that helps. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. This will be my third miscarriage. The first also measured days behind. I think I’m most worried now that this process will go on for weeks with an unviable pregnancy that has a heartbeat.

I’m so sorry. It’s so hard. Do something kind for yourself. This is not the time to put everyone else first.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. It’s the worst the waiting. I went in at 6 weeks no heartbeat went at 7 weeks not heartbeat. They told me it was a missed miscarriage. I waited until 10 weeks for a natural miscarriage because I’d been trying for years and it was my first pregnancy and I didn’t want to risk Uterine scaring. You still have a heartbeat. Crazier things have happened, but the waiting is so hard.

[Anonymous]

Can you ask for anti nausea medicine?
Sorry this is happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you ask for anti nausea medicine?
Sorry this is happening.

I am going to ask. I’ve taken Zofran in the past, but the resulting constipation is worse for me than the nausea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope is a double edged sword but I was given a similar outlook with my first. I went into mourning - absolute devastation - and long story short I now have a healthy 2 year old. I really feel like I totally missed out (understandably) on that time. Ironically when I got pregnant again I decided not to stress at all and just enjoy it because I had no symptoms to the contrary and I had a missed miscarriage. But I’m so glad I enjoyed and celebrated that pregnancy unlike what I did with the first. All of this stuff is so out of our hands, and it’s taught me a lot about control. Pregnancy is fraught with anxiety and emotion that no one talks about. Religion in my case has helped a lot too. Sending best wishes and prayers.

That’s interesting to know! Do you mind if I ask what your initial scan was like?