Waiting to Miscarry

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hope is a double edged sword but I was given a similar outlook with my first. I went into mourning - absolute devastation - and long story short I now have a healthy 2 year old. I really feel like I totally missed out (understandably) on that time. Ironically when I got pregnant again I decided not to stress at all and just enjoy it because I had no symptoms to the contrary and I had a missed miscarriage. But I’m so glad I enjoyed and celebrated that pregnancy unlike what I did with the first. All of this stuff is so out of our hands, and it’s taught me a lot about control. Pregnancy is fraught with anxiety and emotion that no one talks about. Religion in my case has helped a lot too. Sending best wishes and prayers.

That’s interesting to know! Do you mind if I ask what your initial scan was like?

I had full on period bleeding, HCG was just inching along, and baby was measuring over a week behind. Turns out I had dangerously low progesterone (went on PIO shots) and scans just aren’t that accurate. And 2 years later, everything looked good for 8 weeks only to end with a missed miscarriage. I just don’t think there’s any way to know.

[Anonymous]

I had a very similar situation. Waited for 2 weeks until next scan and by then there was no heartbeat. The waiting is terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a very similar situation. Waited for 2 weeks until next scan and by then there was no heartbeat. The waiting is terrible.

I’m just so anxious to have it be over. I have no hope, basically. The doctor and ultrasound tech both said it is inevitable with all the problems. Just so frustrated that on top of it all I’m nauseous.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, it is an awful in between kind of state to be in. And the nausea is just unfair. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hope is a double edged sword but I was given a similar outlook with my first. I went into mourning - absolute devastation - and long story short I now have a healthy 2 year old. I really feel like I totally missed out (understandably) on that time. Ironically when I got pregnant again I decided not to stress at all and just enjoy it because I had no symptoms to the contrary and I had a missed miscarriage. But I’m so glad I enjoyed and celebrated that pregnancy unlike what I did with the first. All of this stuff is so out of our hands, and it’s taught me a lot about control. Pregnancy is fraught with anxiety and emotion that no one talks about. Religion in my case has helped a lot too. Sending best wishes and prayers.

That’s interesting to know! Do you mind if I ask what your initial scan was like?

I had full on period bleeding, HCG was just inching along, and baby was measuring over a week behind. Turns out I had dangerously low progesterone (went on PIO shots) and scans just aren’t that accurate. And 2 years later, everything looked good for 8 weeks only to end with a missed miscarriage. I just don’t think there’s any way to know.

DP.

I posted in the other thread about getting your progesterone checked, especially when you are AMA.

For future reference, get to the ob early and have it monitored. If it’s low or even borderline, go on progesterone. I stopped miscarrying once my ob took me seriously, tested early on and I went on it immediately after a positive pregnancy test.

[Anonymous]

I may be having the same thing happen. If a miscarriage is imminent is there anything they can give you to just speed it up if there is no heartbeat, sac etc? Or do you literally have to start to wait to bleed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I may be having the same thing happen. If a miscarriage is imminent is there anything they can give you to just speed it up if there is no heartbeat, sac etc? Or do you literally have to start to wait to bleed?

I had no heartbeat at my first scan (11 weeks) with pregnancy #2. My doctor gave me three options - wait to miscarry naturally, take cytotec (the abortion pill), or have a D&C. I chose cytotec, which worked best for me at the time given the pros and cons of each option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I may be having the same thing happen. If a miscarriage is imminent is there anything they can give you to just speed it up if there is no heartbeat, sac etc? Or do you literally have to start to wait to bleed?

If there is no heartbeat, I am sure they will tell you your three options and possibly recommend one: watchful waiting, suppositories, or a D and C. They'll won't make you wait to bleed if you don't want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP who wondered about an ectopic earlier this week. It is not ectopic, but I’m at 7 weeks and a day, and there’s nothing encouraging. There’s a slow heartbeat, plus I’m measuring small, still bleeding, with an irregular sac. My gave me a 99 percent chance of inevitable embryonic demise. I’m getting another scan next week since there was a (weak) heartbeat, but basically waiting for a miscarriage. It is miserable for so many reasons, including but mild nausea (although with my two healthy pregnancies I was full-blown nausea at this point.) Did anyone have a similar situation? How long until it resolved?

I'm so sorry, OP. It's such horrible news to get and I really struggled. For me the heartbeat had stopped at my next ultrasound a week later. I did end up needing a d&c though (missed miscarriage). I went through a dark time but I got pregnant not longer after and have a healthy baby now. Sending you a hug.

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Anyone know if most doctors can perform the procedure in office, or does it require a hospital out patient provider.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone know if most doctors can perform the procedure in office, or does it require a hospital out patient provider.

It is either done at an office surgery center or hospital. Not at the OB-gyn office.

[Anonymous]

Really sorry OP. Hugs

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This is OP. I went to the dr. yesterday, and the embryo had passed. Still having nausea and bloating. I’m getting a D and C tomorrow. Dr’s bedside manner was not the greatest. She scrunched up her face and said the scan was ‘very abnormal’ and wondered out loud if she saw a mole. She said we definitely need surgery and pathology. When I asked if she thought it was a molar pregnancy, she snapped that it was probably a blighted ovum, even though there was once a heartbeat from a scan she didn’t ever review. I don’t think a blighted ovum ever has a heartbeat, so now I’m nervous for the pathology report. I just want the nausea to stop, and I’m hoping the surgery is easy. Fingers crossed! Ughhhh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a very similar situation. Waited for 2 weeks until next scan and by then there was no heartbeat. The waiting is terrible.

I’m just so anxious to have it be over. I have no hope, basically. The doctor and ultrasound tech both said it is inevitable with all the problems. Just so frustrated that on top of it all I’m nauseous.

I'm so sorry OP. I've been there; once I waited to miscarry 'naturally' and the next one I quickly asked for medical intervention. Both options were hard, and the waiting is just awful. I'm so sorry. I hope you have some answers soon and hoping for a positive outcome. I never had nausea with my m/c's (3) but sever with my 1 miracle. It's hard to not have hope. ((Hugs))

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I went to the dr. yesterday, and the embryo had passed. Still having nausea and bloating. I’m getting a D and C tomorrow. Dr’s bedside manner was not the greatest. She scrunched up her face and said the scan was ‘very abnormal’ and wondered out loud if she saw a mole. She said we definitely need surgery and pathology. When I asked if she thought it was a molar pregnancy, she snapped that it was probably a blighted ovum, even though there was once a heartbeat from a scan she didn’t ever review. I don’t think a blighted ovum ever has a heartbeat, so now I’m nervous for the pathology report. I just want the nausea to stop, and I’m hoping the surgery is easy. Fingers crossed! Ughhhh.

I'm so sorry PP. I'm the MMC D&C PP. So hard to get this news and you deserved better from your Dr.

On the actual procedure, I didn't have any pain after the anaesthesia wore off. Back to normal physically. Emotionally it was very hard of course.

Br kind to yourself and please plan something nice for yourself (or even just TV bingeing and laying around) for the rest of the day.