Online dating- how many first dates until you found the “one”?
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Anonymous
| Interested in hearing about others’ experiences with online dating. Started two weeks ago and have been on six first dates, but not really feeling like I’m getting any closer to finding someone. Thoughts? |
Anonymous
| 6 first dates in 2 weeks?? Have any asked you on a second date? |
Anonymous
| OP here. Yes, three of the six asked me out on second dates. Not feeling it with any of them. |
Anonymous
| You’re not going to like this answer- 3 years. Many, many first dates, numerous second dates and lots of dead space in between. But after 20 years of marriage I didn’t want to settle. |
Anonymous
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Hmmm, it's been a while but when I was online dating, I remember dating for a few months (lots of first dates but nothing worked out), took a break for a while, then jumped back in. Then about 5 first dates in, I met my now DH.
I think it's just a matter of luck when you meet someone that you click with. Could be date no. 2, could be date no. 22. It's good that you're having lots of first dates and requests for second dates. Don't lower your standards, keep going until you find someone you're really excited about. |
Anonymous
| Probably about 30 different guys. Most more than one date. But I realized after meeting DH that I didn't do a good job really weeding out ones I shouldn't have given the time of day to. |
Anonymous
| I’m married to the first person I met with online dating! Clearly we are outliers based on the other thread responses. |
Anonymous
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I dated four people before finding the one. I went on about 15 online first dates in all I think.
I met "the one" through friends, not online. Keep asking everyone you know to set you up! |
Anonymous
Lol - me too!! Went on one date and we both canceled subscriptions. We’ve been married 11 years. |
Anonymous
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My very first date after my divorce (or during actually) led to a three year relationship. That ended. Took a short break. First person I met after that break is my current 6yr relationship.
(not looking to remarry if anyone is curious why i am in all these long term relationships). |
Anonymous
| I’ve been at it off and on for almost 3 yrs. It took 2 yrs to find someone I saw more than 3 times. At this point I’ve gotten 2 FWB, and one non-exclusive 6 month situationship out of it. You’re in very early days... |
Anonymous
| I do recommend second dates. Sometimes you can meet a great guy, but there is not an initial spark, however, it can build over time and last. |
Anonymous
Yes, this. And first date should always be something casual (coffee). In my case, it was 6 months to a year. I do not remember how many dates / people. A few dozen? |
Anonymous
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Even after people meet you in person, they’re still looking for a reason to “swipe left” on you and see if there’s a better deal out there.
It’s going to take you a LOT longer than two weeks to find someone, sorry. |
Anonymous
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Guy late 40s: 5 years - 15 1-2 dates, 3 that were weeks-months and one 3 year relationship. |