Trans kids in HS
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Anonymous
| I have no HS kids and no friends who have HS kids, how “common” is it that kids in HS are asking to be called other names/pronouns than they were assigned at birth? Not getting political, and please keep ignorant comments to yourself, I’m genuinely curious about statistics or just personal experience. |
Anonymous
| It’s definitely something that is trendy now with teens. There are some legitimately trans teens out there, but there are also a lot of kids trying it out or doing it for attention that will not remain trans as adults. With the kids I know I always respect their wishes and use their preferred names/pronouns, but I also know that I will be going to some of their weddings where they wear white dresses and marry a man. It seems more of a thing with girls. |
Anonymous
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Trendy? JFC how dense can you be. I have more than one friend with a trans kids (and they were trans prior to the current debates). Both are in college or working now but went through HS as trans.
Yes, there are a few that I am aware of at our HS noq and, while I'm sure there are the usual a-holes, for most kids it's a non-issue. |
Anonymous
+1 This past year, I had 3 kids in a large FCPS HS (one just graduated). Between my 3 kids, I know of only 1 trans kid but it's not common knowledge. Kids have come out as gay/bisexual/pansexual and many are putting their preferred pronouns known but none of indicated prounouns other than the binary ones. While this area is a bubble of general acceptance, these kids still face a lot of disrespect in school when they come out. I've not seen any indication of it being 'trendy'. |
Anonymous
| I have 2 teens in 2 different high schools. In total, I know of about 10 kids who are transgender or gender neutral. In contrast to PP's experience, most of the ones I know are biologically male. |
Anonymous
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I have a teenaged family member that came out as a lesbian and then as non-binary. They changed their name from a female name to a male name, waited a year and made it a legal name change through the courts.
All they have asked of us is to call them by their new name and use they/them instead of gendered pronouns, so that is what we do. I don't have to understand it to respect my loved one enough to call them by their chosen name and use the correct pronouns. |
Anonymous
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One of the dads in our neighborhood is trans and also works for HRC. He posted this on social media and it really resonates with me.
"I’m here to remind you all that the trans and queer kids are not the problem. The only trend right now is that young folks understand life is better in color and rigidity around gender and sexuality actually does a number on us all. The kids aren’t the problem. The world isn’t ending. Maybe it’s just beginning. Loosen up y’all. Happy Pride. 🏳️⚧️🌈🏳️⚧️🌈🏳️⚧️" My DH and I decided that if our kids want to change pronouns or names we will go with it. There is no harm in calling them whatever they want to be called. Conversely, not being accepting a trans kid can be catastrophic. |
Anonymous
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My children were in a Catholic HS so they had 1-3 trans kids per grade.
They talk about their preferred pronoun and might say something on Instagram about taking T but generally it’s a non-subject, it’s not an issue, they rarely talk about it/post about it. Most kids (minus a few extremists) don’t really care what people want to be called. |
Anonymous
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It’s extremely common in my kid’s middle school - 5 or 6 kids in the rising 8th grade and 6 in the rising 7th have changed their pronouns and/or names. My kid and I will call them what they want to be called of course, but I do not expect that all of them (nearly 10% of each class) will keep these changes permanently, but that’s their choice. Doesn’t hurt or affect me at all. My kid is supportive of their friends.
And yes, it is all girls in this school. |
Anonymous
boys still have more discrimination |
Anonymous
| There a new panic thread every week on DCUM. |
Anonymous
I mean on this topic specifically. |
Anonymous
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OP here - thank you for your replies. To be clear, I'm definitely not trying to start a "panic thread", I am fully accepting of people in all forms and will always treat everyone with respect. I was arguing with a friend's husband over the weekend who made it seem like it was "trendy" in HS and I was hearing the same old "you want your daughters in a locker room/bathroom with a boy?!" arguments from him and I wanted a reality check on myself to see the real situation in school these days.
I also found the thread in the schools forum about the Loudoun County teacher. |
Anonymous
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Pronouns, very common.
Full transition, very rare. (Large public system) |
Anonymous
Given that the vast majority of (anecdotal) transitions or pronoun shifts are ftm, that’s not an issue. |