Dating Friends Ex

[Anonymous]

I’ve been secretly dating my friends ex-gf. They dated for about 6 months. It started innocently online when we both noticed each other on a dating site. It started off casual - mostly sharing our experiences on the dating site. It turned into more after a of couple weeks. I realized I really liked talking to her and wanted to get to know her more. We started going unofficial dates and it’s becoming serious. We both having talked about exclusively dating. I need to know how to break it to my friend that I’m dating his ex.

[Anonymous]

Is he dating anyone new? How long ago did they date?

I married an ex's best friend, but he had already married someone else by that time so while he was surprised, he didn't care. Though he did try to get me to sleep with him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he dating anyone new? How long ago did they date?

I married an ex's best friend, but he had already married someone else by that time so while he was surprised, he didn't care. Though he did try to get me to sleep with him!

OP here. He’s not dating anyone but he has dated since her. They went on for 6 months and she said they broke up because they didn’t have the same vision for the future.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t worry about it. Tell your friend if you feel like it’s becoming serious.

[Anonymous]

If it turns serious you tell your friend that you two matched and started seeing each other on a lark but it turned into something. in my 20s my friends and I were Eskimo sisters a bunch of times, it’s only a problem if there is deceit or if someone is really possessive and not over the other person.

Be honest and deal with it, the longer it goes the harder it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he dating anyone new? How long ago did they date?

I married an ex's best friend, but he had already married someone else by that time so while he was surprised, he didn't care. Though he did try to get me to sleep with him!

OP here. He’s not dating anyone but he has dated since her. They went on for 6 months and she said they broke up because they didn’t have the same vision for the future.

Six months is not long. Just tell him you ran across each other and swiped to say hi, and discovered you get along well. Ask Joe he feels about it, though obviously you don’t really care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he dating anyone new? How long ago did they date?

I married an ex's best friend, but he had already married someone else by that time so while he was surprised, he didn't care. Though he did try to get me to sleep with him!

OP here. He’s not dating anyone but he has dated since her. They went on for 6 months and she said they broke up because they didn’t have the same vision for the future.

This seems fine then - a mutual agreement to part ways after a dating relationship. It's not like one of them still wanted the relationship to continue or is still pining after the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he dating anyone new? How long ago did they date?

I married an ex's best friend, but he had already married someone else by that time so while he was surprised, he didn't care. Though he did try to get me to sleep with him!

Oh no...after he was already married?

[Anonymous]

It's trashy, you know this or you wouldn't have hidden it. The chaotic happenstance, things just snowballed junk is childish, own up to your choices.

[Anonymous]

If you were a woman, it would be the end of your friendship. Since you are a guy, he will probably say congrats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he dating anyone new? How long ago did they date?

I married an ex's best friend, but he had already married someone else by that time so while he was surprised, he didn't care. Though he did try to get me to sleep with him!

Oh no...after he was already married?

Lol, why do you sound so surprised? It happens ALLLLLL the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's trashy, you know this or you wouldn't have hidden it. The chaotic happenstance, things just snowballed junk is childish, own up to your choices.

OP here. He’s not a super close friend of mine. He’s more of a friend of a friend. We hang out in group settings and that’s about it. We have hung out together but it’s more rare. He’s best friends with a close friend of mine. I never really knew her because I never payed that much attention to her when they were dating. I had a serious gf at the time.

I really didn’t mean for it to happen at all. It was like a friend of acquaintance talking about experiences on the site. We would both check-in and share things about weird or funny dates. One date blew her off and I told her I would hang out with her since we matched online. It was meant as a joke but we had a really good time. We kept hanging out and realized we both really like each other. Now we are at a point where we are interested in becoming a relationship and exclusive dating. I want to tell him now before we are months into the relationship.

They dated in 2019 for 6 months. They broke up because he doesn’t want kids and she does. She hasn’t talked to him since late 2019. She doesn’t think it’s a big deal since they were super serious or in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's trashy, you know this or you wouldn't have hidden it. The chaotic happenstance, things just snowballed junk is childish, own up to your choices.

OP here. He’s not a super close friend of mine. He’s more of a friend of a friend. We hang out in group settings and that’s about it. We have hung out together but it’s more rare. He’s best friends with a close friend of mine. I never really knew her because I never payed that much attention to her when they were dating. I had a serious gf at the time.

I really didn’t mean for it to happen at all. It was like a friend of acquaintance talking about experiences on the site. We would both check-in and share things about weird or funny dates. One date blew her off and I told her I would hang out with her since we matched online. It was meant as a joke but we had a really good time. We kept hanging out and realized we both really like each other. Now we are at a point where we are interested in becoming a relationship and exclusive dating. I want to tell him now before we are months into the relationship.

They dated in 2019 for 6 months. They broke up because he doesn’t want kids and she does. She hasn’t talked to him since late 2019. She doesn’t think it’s a big deal since they were super serious or in love.

So you never hung out seperately and this is not someone you talk to or would text with? If this correct, he's not really a friend and this not trashy? But I'd still be careful because she may be messy.

[Anonymous]

“been there, done that dude.”

maybe y’all can perform the wobbly-H with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's trashy, you know this or you wouldn't have hidden it. The chaotic happenstance, things just snowballed junk is childish, own up to your choices.

OP here. He’s not a super close friend of mine. He’s more of a friend of a friend. We hang out in group settings and that’s about it. We have hung out together but it’s more rare. He’s best friends with a close friend of mine. I never really knew her because I never payed that much attention to her when they were dating. I had a serious gf at the time.

I really didn’t mean for it to happen at all. It was like a friend of acquaintance talking about experiences on the site. We would both check-in and share things about weird or funny dates. One date blew her off and I told her I would hang out with her since we matched online. It was meant as a joke but we had a really good time. We kept hanging out and realized we both really like each other. Now we are at a point where we are interested in becoming a relationship and exclusive dating. I want to tell him now before we are months into the relationship.

They dated in 2019 for 6 months. They broke up because he doesn’t want kids and she does. She hasn’t talked to him since late 2019. She doesn’t think it’s a big deal since they were super serious or in love.

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