Dating Friends Ex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:It's trashy, you know this or you wouldn't have hidden it. The chaotic happenstance, things just snowballed junk is childish, own up to your choices.

OP here. He’s not a super close friend of mine. He’s more of a friend of a friend. We hang out in group settings and that’s about it. We have hung out together but it’s more rare. He’s best friends with a close friend of mine. I never really knew her because I never payed that much attention to her when they were dating. I had a serious gf at the time.

I really didn’t mean for it to happen at all. It was like a friend of acquaintance talking about experiences on the site. We would both check-in and share things about weird or funny dates. One date blew her off and I told her I would hang out with her since we matched online. It was meant as a joke but we had a really good time. We kept hanging out and realized we both really like each other. Now we are at a point where we are interested in becoming a relationship and exclusive dating. I want to tell him now before we are months into the relationship.

They dated in 2019 for 6 months. They broke up because he doesn’t want kids and she does. She hasn’t talked to him since late 2019. She doesn’t think it’s a big deal since they were super serious or in love.

So you never hung out seperately and this is not someone you talk to or would text with? If this correct, he's not really a friend and this not trashy? But I'd still be careful because she may be messy.

OP here. We have hing out separately but not many times. We most hang out in group settings. We do text a couple times a month. We are friends but not best friends or super close.

I don’t think she is messy. I’m not even really sure what you mean by that. She doesn’t have any feelings for him and said the relationship was not really serious. He moved on very quickly after so I don’t think he it was for him either. She said they broke up because he didn't want kids and she didn’t want to get serious with someone who didn’t want kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's trashy, you know this or you wouldn't have hidden it. The chaotic happenstance, things just snowballed junk is childish, own up to your choices.

OP here. He’s not a super close friend of mine. He’s more of a friend of a friend. We hang out in group settings and that’s about it. We have hung out together but it’s more rare. He’s best friends with a close friend of mine. I never really knew her because I never payed that much attention to her when they were dating. I had a serious gf at the time.

I really didn’t mean for it to happen at all. It was like a friend of acquaintance talking about experiences on the site. We would both check-in and share things about weird or funny dates. One date blew her off and I told her I would hang out with her since we matched online. It was meant as a joke but we had a really good time. We kept hanging out and realized we both really like each other. Now we are at a point where we are interested in becoming a relationship and exclusive dating. I want to tell him now before we are months into the relationship.

They dated in 2019 for 6 months. They broke up because he doesn’t want kids and she does. She hasn’t talked to him since late 2019. She doesn’t think it’s a big deal since they were super serious or in love.

So you never hung out seperately and this is not someone you talk to or would text with? If this correct, he's not really a friend and this not trashy? But I'd still be careful because she may be messy.

OP here. We have hing out separately but not many times. We most hang out in group settings. We do text a couple times a month. We are friends but not best friends or super close.

I don’t think she is messy. I’m not even really sure what you mean by that. She doesn’t have any feelings for him and said the relationship was not really serious. He moved on very quickly after so I don’t think he it was for him either. She said they broke up because he didn't want kids and she didn’t want to get serious with someone who didn’t want kids.

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[Anonymous]

You don’t really owe anyone a heads up or explanation and you’re overthinking it. I wouldn’t bother telling him anything if I’m the normal course or your “friendship” you have not already discussed who you are dating then your bro isn’t really your bro. No need. It was in 2019

[Anonymous]

^if in

[Anonymous]

You are barely friends with him and they broke up over a year ago over a fundamental issue. I would say something if you were going to a party as a couple and you knew he would be there but nothing to announce the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were a woman, it would be the end of your friendship. Since you are a guy, he will probably say congrats.

As long as the friend has had good luck dating and isn’t pining for her, it is 100% okay. You may end up comparing notes who knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been secretly dating my friends ex-gf. They dated for about 6 months. It started innocently online when we both noticed each other on a dating site. It started off casual - mostly sharing our experiences on the dating site. It turned into more after a of couple weeks. I realized I really liked talking to her and wanted to get to know her more. We started going unofficial dates and it’s becoming serious. We both having talked about exclusively dating. I need to know how to break it to my friend that I’m dating his ex.

oh dude, you are a scum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“been there, done that dude.”

maybe y’all can perform the wobbly-H with her.

Do any straight men really want that arrangement? I think they always want more women then men in the mix.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine. You aren’t best friends. You are more like friends and friends. And why was he not upfront with her that he did not want kids before she wasted six months dating him?

You’re good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's trashy, you know this or you wouldn't have hidden it. The chaotic happenstance, things just snowballed junk is childish, own up to your choices.

OP here. He’s not a super close friend of mine. He’s more of a friend of a friend. We hang out in group settings and that’s about it. We have hung out together but it’s more rare. He’s best friends with a close friend of mine. I never really knew her because I never payed that much attention to her when they were dating. I had a serious gf at the time.

I really didn’t mean for it to happen at all. It was like a friend of acquaintance talking about experiences on the site. We would both check-in and share things about weird or funny dates. One date blew her off and I told her I would hang out with her since we matched online. It was meant as a joke but we had a really good time. We kept hanging out and realized we both really like each other. Now we are at a point where we are interested in becoming a relationship and exclusive dating. I want to tell him now before we are months into the relationship.

They dated in 2019 for 6 months. They broke up because he doesn’t want kids and she does. She hasn’t talked to him since late 2019. She doesn’t think it’s a big deal since they were super serious or in love.

So you never hung out seperately and this is not someone you talk to or would text with? If this correct, he's not really a friend and this not trashy? But I'd still be careful because she may be messy.

OP here. We have hing out separately but not many times. We most hang out in group settings. We do text a couple times a month. We are friends but not best friends or super close.

I don’t think she is messy. I’m not even really sure what you mean by that. She doesn’t have any feelings for him and said the relationship was not really serious. He moved on very quickly after so I don’t think he it was for him either. She said they broke up because he didn't want kids and she didn’t want to get serious with someone who didn’t want kids.

I'm back to this being trashy and you're both messy and live for drama

[Anonymous]

Definitely NBD based on what you've said.
If he finds out he finds out - I do not think you need to approach him about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t really owe anyone a heads up or explanation and you’re overthinking it. I wouldn’t bother telling him anything if I’m the normal course or your “friendship” you have not already discussed who you are dating then your bro isn’t really your bro. No need. It was in 2019

Yup just like the friend won't owe anything to op when the girl decides to go back to him or takes up with one of his friends

[Anonymous]

I'm married to my ex's best friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to my ex's best friend.

does that make it your ex's ex-best friend ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he dating anyone new? How long ago did they date?

I married an ex's best friend, but he had already married someone else by that time so while he was surprised, he didn't care. Though he did try to get me to sleep with him!

Oh no...after he was already married?

Yes! They were having problems in their marriage; he came to town to visit family and see if he could get me to sleep with him again. I told him I was dating his friend, and he still made a pass. It was pretty gross.