Dating Friends Ex

[Anonymous]

OP here. We are becoming serious and so I will be posting pics of online and bringing her to stuff when we all hang out. I would rather tell him beforehand than just show up with her or post a pic online. I don’t think he would care that much. I just don’t know how to tell him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are becoming serious and so I will be posting pics of online and bringing her to stuff when we all hang out. I would rather tell him beforehand than just show up with her or post a pic online. I don’t think he would care that much. I just don’t know how to tell him.

dude get a grip. you don't owe this guy anything. no one gives a rats ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are becoming serious and so I will be posting pics of online and bringing her to stuff when we all hang out. I would rather tell him beforehand than just show up with her or post a pic online. I don’t think he would care that much. I just don’t know how to tell him.

You definitely love drama.

[Anonymous]

$10 says this is actually the gf posting. Secretly hoping to make her ex jealous.

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy for six months and we broke up two months ago. We were not serious or exclusive. I like one of his friends, but I think his boy would not go for it out of loyalty, even though it was his idea to end things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were a woman, it would be the end of your friendship. Since you are a guy, he will probably say congrats.

This is an excellent point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were a woman, it would be the end of your friendship. Since you are a guy, he will probably say congrats.

This is an excellent point.

they don't have an actual friendship, they're aquaintenances and OP is likely female. guys don't do this. if they're real friends, they already know who's banging who.

[Anonymous]

OP, just give your acquaintance/friend a head's up. You can even do it by text. Just tell him that you matched with her a while ago and you guys hung out and it seems like its getting serious. You wanted to tell him so he didn't hear it second hand or was surprised by the news.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine

[Anonymous]

My brother lived in a group house and set up one of his roommates with a family friend. It didn’t work out and the other roommate said “she seemed pretty cool. Would it be okay if I asked her out?” The roommate who had dated her gave his blessing and it all worked out nicely. (Second roommate has been married to the woman for about 20 years. My family and the ex-boyfriend roommate were all at the wedding.) I think the key there was it was communicated early. Given that you don’t see this friend often and don’t need his permission I think I curtesy heads up of “hey, I wanted to let you know we matched and decided to try dating. We’re hitting it off and I wanted you to hear it directly from me” or something like that is reasonable. Also, it sounds like if you lose this friend in your life it’s not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for six months and we broke up two months ago. We were not serious or exclusive. I like one of his friends, but I think his boy would not go for it out of loyalty, even though it was his idea to end things.

Yeah, some groups of “friends” don’t play those games. There are parts of this world where you get shot for sleeping with an ex. It ain’t worth it. I’ve asked my ex several times to introduce me to a friend and he is always like, “nah.”