Resetting team dynamics

[Anonymous]

On a team that has a talented player with behavioral issues what are some effective and appropriate ways to reset the team dynamic for a new season ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On a team that has a talented player with behavioral issues what are some effective and appropriate ways to reset the team dynamic for a new season ?

The coach should warn, bench or suspend the player if the player misbehaves, but very few coaches do it.

[Anonymous]

OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?

If its your best player you work around it. If its anyone else you isolated them at training make them work by themselves or run extra laps until the conform to team culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?

If its your best player you work around it. If its anyone else you isolated them at training make them work by themselves or run extra laps until the conform to team culture.

Trolls going to troll.

[Anonymous]

Coach should talk to the parent and be very specific about behaviors that are not allowed on the team.

[Anonymous]

Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.

[Anonymous]

Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.

I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.

[Anonymous]

The most effective thing I’ve seen a coach do tell players that if they witness inappropriate behavior by anyone, that player will not start the next game and will get reduced playing time. The first game after our coach laid that down, one kid who happened to be one of the star players kept up the behavior. Sure enough, coach benched them for the first ten minutes of the next game. Never happened again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The most effective thing I’ve seen a coach do tell players that if they witness inappropriate behavior by anyone, that player will not start the next game and will get reduced playing time. The first game after our coach laid that down, one kid who happened to be one of the star players kept up the behavior. Sure enough, coach benched them for the first ten minutes of the next game. Never happened again.

My kid reported a bullying incident but he was the one that got punished by being benched for an entire game (the bully was the coach--we reported it to the club administration).

We left Bethesda after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.

I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.

Imagine if your son was not a starter and the kid picking on him was a starter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?

If its your best player you work around it. If its anyone else you isolated them at training make them work by themselves or run extra laps until the conform to team culture.

Trolls going to troll.

Having kids run laps for misbehavior is pretty common.

[Anonymous]

Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.


I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.


Imagine if your son was not a starter and the kid picking on him was a starter.

I don't know if it would make a difference to him (a lot of the comments are directed at the fact that he has a learning disability, rather than soccer), but to me it would be worse, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.

I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.

OMG ITS A COMPETITIVE ENVIRONMENT !!!!! You dont get it, he's picking on your player because he wants his starting spot ! Yes you want starters and non starters. It teaches them to compete for a spot. It teaches them that they have to work hard to earn and keep their spot. It should leave a player with bad feelings however its up to you to teach your player they need to work hard and compete.

[Anonymous]

Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.


I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.


OMG ITS A COMPETITIVE ENVIRONMENT !!!!! You dont get it, he's picking on your player because he wants his starting spot ! Yes you want starters and non starters. It teaches them to compete for a spot. It teaches them that they have to work hard to earn and keep their spot. It should leave a player with bad feelings however its up to you to teach your player they need to work hard and compete.

The kids are still pretty young, and he's not on world's most competitive team. But you do you. Doesn't seem like this other kid's parents (who actually seem like really nice people) have the ability to enforce what you are suggesting.