Resetting team dynamics

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.


I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.


Imagine if your son was not a starter and the kid picking on him was a starter.

I don't know if it would make a difference to him (a lot of the comments are directed at the fact that he has a learning disability, rather than soccer), but to me it would be worse, yes.

Its terrible that your child is being teased for a condition beyond his control. A good coach would work on more team building activities to stress team inclusiveness. If it were soccer only related I would chalk it up to competition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On a team that has a talented player with behavioral issues what are some effective and appropriate ways to reset the team dynamic for a new season ?

The fact that he's talented should not even be an issue. This is kids soccer. We're not dealing with Maradona's drug problem or a Hall of Fame NFL player's domestic abuse issues. The only real "investment" here is the future of the kids - including the one causing problems. NOW is the time to make sure he / she grows up to be a decent human - through the lessons of team sports.

[Anonymous]

Coaches need to look in the mirror

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On a team that has a talented player with behavioral issues what are some effective and appropriate ways to reset the team dynamic for a new season ?

The fact that he's talented should not even be an issue. This is kids soccer. We're not dealing with Maradona's drug problem or a Hall of Fame NFL player's domestic abuse issues. The only real "investment" here is the future of the kids - including the one causing problems. NOW is the time to make sure he / she grows up to be a decent human - through the lessons of team sports.

Welcome to reality honey.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?

If its your best player you work around it. If its anyone else you isolated them at training make them work by themselves or run extra laps until the conform to team culture.

Trolls going to troll.

Having kids run laps for misbehavior is pretty common.

Thanks for the insight...

The trolling comment was towards treating the better players less harshly than the other players.