How to set up will protecting DD with untrustworthy DH

[Anonymous]

I want my money to pass to her and not be squandered, controlled, or split by her DH in case of divorce. I have no reason to believe this will happen, but just in case. She is not in a high-paying profession, he is in a UMC job. She comes from a well-off family, he comes from a LMC family.

[Anonymous]

Just make sure she knows about comingling. Other than giving her info butt out.

[Anonymous]

Pourover trust in your will. She can be beneficiary when you die, or her kids (if she has kids) can be beneficiaries with her as trustee. If he commingles it, all bets are off — PP is right.

[Anonymous]

What you do is, hire an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Hire a T&E attorney

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want my money to pass to her and not be squandered, controlled, or split by her DH in case of divorce. I have no reason to believe this will happen, but just in case. She is not in a high-paying profession, he is in a UMC job. She comes from a well-off family, he comes from a LMC family.

WTF difference does it make what kind of family he comes from
?
That has no bearing on character.
You sound like a snob!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pourover trust in your will. She can be beneficiary when you die, or her kids (if she has kids) can be beneficiaries with her as trustee. If he commingles it, all bets are off — PP is right.

This, or irrevocable trust with her as trustee and co-beneficiaries with grandchildren.

If her spouse is the jealous type and she insists on staying with him, he may still get your assets, but you have no way to prevent this outcome. Hopefully he’s not abusive. If he is not abusive, this arrangement will work well.

[Anonymous]

You call him untrustworthy but have no reason to believe so? Huh.

[Anonymous]

He is a LMC!! That is a crappy reason for your dislike of him! How shallow.
About your money, you are right to leave it to dd and that makes sense.
How is he untrustworthy because he is LMC!
My DH came from LMC, he is the more trustworthy, hard-working person you can ever meet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want my money to pass to her and not be squandered, controlled, or split by her DH in case of divorce. I have no reason to believe this will happen, but just in case. She is not in a high-paying profession, he is in a UMC job. She comes from a well-off family, he comes from a LMC family.

This last bit doesn’t matter. In my first marriage, I was the partner from the LMC family and I was so much more financially responsible than my now Ex. We’ve been divorced nearly 17 years and he still struggles. The grandparents left the grandkids money directly in control of the parents except for him. Our DC’s money is administered through a trust because they know he would squander it, but he was the one who grew up in a well-off family.

[Anonymous]

An inheritance is not considered part of marital assets in the event of a divorce.

[Anonymous]

People. OP probably specified LMC/UMC to show that her DD’s H will have little inheritance, while DD will get a large one. So there won’t be an additional inheritance for them and the H will probably be itching to get his hands on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People. OP probably specified LMC/UMC to show that her DD’s H will have little inheritance, while DD will get a large one. So there won’t be an additional inheritance for them and the H will probably be itching to get his hands on it.

Ah, yes, because all those shifty LMC animals just can’t help but try and get their hands on your money any chance they get.

[Anonymous]

Exactly how much are we talking about, OP? And how old are you?

[Anonymous]

Heads up, in my extended family, a wealthy aunt tried to do this to keep her son in law out of her will and my cousin/her daughter was so offended, she cut her mom out of her life.