“Happy Mother’s Day” posts on FB/Instagram

[Anonymous]

Did you post pics of yourself and kids and flowers, and sort of brag and wish everyone Happy Mothers Day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you post pics of yourself and kids and flowers, and sort of brag and wish everyone Happy Mothers Day?

I hate this so much. Particularly for those of us who have less than thoughtful teenagers. And are single parents with no spouse to push the event. It’s kind of a sucky holiday.

[Anonymous]

Nope. But my teens don't like me posting pictures of them period. So I generally don't post about them.

[Anonymous]

I posted a pic of myself with my children, but no, of course I did not include flowers or gifts in the photo.

That said, get off social media if that kind of thing bothers you.

[Anonymous]

This is the biggest first world problem ever. And no, I didn’t post the flowers I got (I never do). But it doesn’t effect me when others do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the biggest first world problem ever. And no, I didn’t post the flowers I got (I never do). But it doesn’t effect me when others do.

*affect. Because I know some of y’all will harp on that!

[Anonymous]

I have never posted a picture of myself on social media. My DD had a picture of 25 year old me with her as a baby on her story and that was OK.

[Anonymous]

I post flowers because I like to post beautiful and good things in life - rainbows, landscapes, cats, my child, flowers, etc.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t posted things like that in maybe 10 years. Now I have a mentally ill teen, and I realize more in depth how hurtful those posts can be. My day turned out much better than expected, but I still didn’t post about it. I’m sure there was a mom who didn’t get a card, a hug, and an hour of tv together on the couch, and I don’t need to make her feel worse.

[Anonymous]

I didn't post anything. My mother never liked Mother's Day herself, e.g. didn't like going to brunch when everyone else was (and paying a premium), etc. Her philosophy is that you should show appreciation every day of the year, and if you do, then no need to have a special day for it. That has rubbed off on me. I'd rather my kids be more appreciative over the year than to do a card (they didn't) and feel that they've done enough.
One of my FB friends, in her post, said that she was also "holding in her heart those of you who find this day painful". I thought that was very thoughtful and it does highlight how this isn't a great time for a good many people out there: single people that haven't gotten to marry/have kids, people who may have fertility challenges or have miscarried, people whose moms have passed away, or people who have difficult relationships with their moms. I know people in all those categories.
I do hope that those of you who observe it with more gusto than I do have had a wonderful day.

[Anonymous]

^^Adding:
and people whose relationships with their kids is less than ideal, whether due to mental illness, addiction, personalities, distance, etc. Or maybe they have a special needs child that has made mothering challenging, and/or the mother will not get a card/flowers/brunch from this child.
I mention this because I feel that there is a lot of conflict and stress, with tons of sibling rivalry, within my home right now. When I see posts of parents whose adorable kids are very positive, cheerful, etc, it reminds me that I'm very dissatisfied with where I am now on this parenting journey. I'm glad that others have great family dynamics, but I can't (/wouldn't) fake that kind of thing on FB. I clicked 'like' on numerous posts because I'm genuinely happy for them though.

[Anonymous]

I am OP. I was amazed to see the masses of posts on Mother’s Day and it struck me how these messages might hurt other people’s feelings for various personal reasons. I found it delightful to see happy mothers reveling in their joy however. But also a little embarrassing for the messages that are so braggy - “here’s me being spoiled” and demonstrating their riches- both material and familial.

I love Mother’s Day but this is perhaps the first year I realized that other moms/women who want to be be moms might be injured by these messages.

I didn’t post myself but I do have a photo of my kids and I that I consider sharing. Also their privacy is of course a concern. Social media is concerning in general. My own (mid 70s!) mom asked why I didn’t post a message with her in it, as if I had ignored her in an important at way.

[Anonymous]

No. I make a general post wishing my mom and all my mom friends a Happy Day. No pic's of how awesome and wonderful my husband/kids/gifts/day was. I find it seriously tacky, obnoxious, and insecure when I see people do this.

[Anonymous]

No. But I don't make these posts for bdays or anniversaries either. I like seeing my friends posts though, especially old pictures of when they were younger with their own moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am OP. I was amazed to see the masses of posts on Mother’s Day and it struck me how these messages might hurt other people’s feelings for various personal reasons. I found it delightful to see happy mothers reveling in their joy however. But also a little embarrassing for the messages that are so braggy - “here’s me being spoiled” and demonstrating their riches- both material and familial.

I love Mother’s Day but this is perhaps the first year I realized that other moms/women who want to be be moms might be injured by these messages.

I didn’t post myself but I do have a photo of my kids and I that I consider sharing. Also their privacy is of course a concern. Social media is concerning in general. My own (mid 70s!) mom asked why I didn’t post a message with her in it, as if I had ignored her in an important at way.

Well anyone who's upset by those having a happy MD would be pretty foolish to hang out on social media that day.