“Happy Mother’s Day” posts on FB/Instagram

[Anonymous]

I did post. My kids made me hand made gifts. Sorry if it offended! I didn’t get jewelry or a new purse or anything. Didn’t think it would cause ire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am OP. I was amazed to see the masses of posts on Mother’s Day and it struck me how these messages might hurt other people’s feelings for various personal reasons. I found it delightful to see happy mothers reveling in their joy however. But also a little embarrassing for the messages that are so braggy - “here’s me being spoiled” and demonstrating their riches- both material and familial.

I love Mother’s Day but this is perhaps the first year I realized that other moms/women who want to be be moms might be injured by these messages.

I didn’t post myself but I do have a photo of my kids and I that I consider sharing. Also their privacy is of course a concern. Social media is concerning in general. My own (mid 70s!) mom asked why I didn’t post a message with her in it, as if I had ignored her in an important at way.

I’m a single mom of a tween and any Mother’s Day celebration or even acknowledgement has to be initiated by me. This doesn’t bother me. It’s just how things are. I didn’t post anything DC did for me because they didn’t do anything. BUT I would not *not post* because someone might get their feelings hurt. Give me a break. If someone gets their feelings hurt because I had a great Mother’s Day, they should not be on social media. Dumbest thing ever.

[Anonymous]

I don’t post on FB but I am fine with other posting things. I just enjoy privacy and prefer to send pictures to those o stay close with. I realize that this day may be painful. I am gearing up for it as my mom is almost 80. I know when she is gone I will never feel the same way about this day. But, that doesn’t mean I would begrudge anyone a wonderful day and their right to bask in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did post. My kids made me hand made gifts. Sorry if it offended! I didn’t get jewelry or a new purse or anything. Didn’t think it would cause ire.

Hi there it’s OP again- I probably liked and commented on it! I love these pics but was just realizing maybe they make other women “feel sad/bad/etc”. I was specifically thinking my 40 something friend who has never said she doesn’t want kids but doesn’t have them. She is extremely successful at Apple so I thought she must be one who has delayed due to career. But I’ve never asked because none of my business. Just wondering...

Hope you had a lovely special day. 💛

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t post on FB but I am fine with other posting things. I just enjoy privacy and prefer to send pictures to those o stay close with. I realize that this day may be painful. I am gearing up for it as my mom is almost 80. I know when she is gone I will never feel the same way about this day. But, that doesn’t mean I would begrudge anyone a wonderful day and their right to bask in it.

Hi there yes this is kind of what I was thinking of. Me too.

[Anonymous]

I had a normal mother's days. I have had AMAZING ones, and really CRAPPY ones. During my worst mother's day I read through posts of happy moms, with flowers and adoring family. It really made me feel even worse. Since then, I have never posted anything like that on FB, even if my day turns out great. Why? What is the point but only to show off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did post. My kids made me hand made gifts. Sorry if it offended! I didn’t get jewelry or a new purse or anything. Didn’t think it would cause ire.

Isn't it strange that you felt you needed to post this? Look, I have awesome kids who made me gifts and I want everyone on FB to know it. It's weird, like people that post selfies every week. It's just off. I dropped out of FB a few years back because I just didn't understand it.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird to be offended even though I had a disappointing Mother’s Day. I’m happy for my friends who had fun and was excited to see all the different ways people celebrated as mother’s and for their mothers. Obviously if it was too painful I would have avoided it. If we are worried about hurting every person’s feelings on every occasion than we couldn’t ever post any happy memories.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird to be offended even though I had a disappointing Mother’s Day. I’m happy for my friends who had fun and was excited to see all the different ways people celebrated as mother’s and for their mothers. Obviously if it was too painful I would have avoided it. If we are worried about hurting every person’s feelings on every occasion than we couldn’t ever post any happy memories.

This is too sensible a post for DCUM. You really ought to see yourself out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did post. My kids made me hand made gifts. Sorry if it offended! I didn’t get jewelry or a new purse or anything. Didn’t think it would cause ire.

Isn't it strange that you felt you needed to post this? Look, I have awesome kids who made me gifts and I want everyone on FB to know it. It's weird, like people that post selfies every week. It's just off. I dropped out of FB a few years back because I just didn't understand it.

Dp. I don’t find it strange, I love seeing my friends kid pictures and artwork or whatever they are up to. Helps us stay connected. Genuinely curious why it would be weird? Do you not send out holiday picture cards or tell people about your travels? Do you keep photo albums? Don’t you like seeing pictures of family and friends?

[Anonymous]

I found myself alone in the house for 2 hours on Mother’s Day. Best part of the weekend after a long pandemic of working/schooling at home. I didn’t post anything. My own mom is deceased. Hugs to all. Find a moment that you enjoy and that’s all you need.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did post. My kids made me hand made gifts. Sorry if it offended! I didn’t get jewelry or a new purse or anything. Didn’t think it would cause ire.

Hi there it’s OP again- I probably liked and commented on it! I love these pics but was just realizing maybe they make other women “feel sad/bad/etc”. I was specifically thinking my 40 something friend who has never said she doesn’t want kids but doesn’t have them. She is extremely successful at Apple so I thought she must be one who has delayed due to career. But I’ve never asked because none of my business. Just wondering...

Hope you had a lovely special day. 💛

Do you wonder if someone posting about getting a new job might hurt someone who lost a job, or is underemployed, or hates their job? Don't post any wedding photos; someone might be going through a divorce, or might not have found someone special. Don't post about a vacation; others might not be able to afford it, or may not have enjoyed theirs. Are you getting a degree this May? Don't you dare post--college isn't accessible to everyone.

And on. And on. And on.

Those who feel sensitive or insecure about certain days or topics should avoid social media. The end.

[Anonymous]

Loved Mothers Day but hurt due to missing my mother who passed away a few years ago. So. It is what it is. I found joy in all the other posts of those enjoying the love and my heart went out to those who lost their mother this year and a workmate who lost her first to stillbirth. Balance.

[Anonymous]

Weird to be offended or hurt by people’s happiness.