42-43 too old for a baby?

[Anonymous]

I am 42 and have 3 beautiful smart perfect children. I would absolutely go for another if it weren’t for my age. I know plenty of women my age who have/had/want children but most of them married later. I got married at age 29 and had 3 kids during my 30s.

Would you go for a fourth child at age 42?

I did conceive all of my children in the first or second month of trying so I was very fertile.

[Anonymous]

Nope. My SIL had her second baby two weeks after turning 43. He's at the top of the charts for height and weight, and at 14 months he has about 30 words. His best one is "challah" with a perfect accent!

[Anonymous]

How old is your youngest?

[Anonymous]

If you're in great health and have a lot of help/support!

[Anonymous]

Assuming your husband is a similar age or younger, you are both healthy, and you have no immediate reason to suspect your health or longevity is precarious (if all your parents died young of health issues, for example, I might worry about genes), then yes, I would go for it.

If you can't get pregnant naturally, I would be less likely to see a fertility doctor at that age, with already having three children, and would probably conclude that was a sign it was time to stop having children.

[Anonymous]

Well if all three of your kids are beautiful, smart and perfect, the odds will say that eventually the dice will roll something else.
Also, before deciding, you might want to review the many threads from women in their late 40s complaining how crappy they feel. At 42, I was like “why do people complain about 40? Age is a state of mind.” At 48, half the time I feel like I am 100. Not sure I could handle a 5 year old....especially while also handling teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Seems like it could be dicey given risk of complications. If you really want to add another, have you considered adopting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is your youngest?

My youngest is 4. I want to give the youngest a baby sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like it could be dicey given risk of complications. If you really want to add another, have you considered adopting?

I have considered adopting but DH is not interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 42 and have 3 beautiful smart perfect children. I would absolutely go for another if it weren’t for my age. I know plenty of women my age who have/had/want children but most of them married later. I got married at age 29 and had 3 kids during my 30s.

Would you go for a fourth child at age 42?

I did conceive all of my children in the first or second month of trying so I was very fertile.

No.

I had my one and only at 39 (yes, married later) and there's no way I'd even consider another. A fourth at 42 sounds insane to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 42 and have 3 beautiful smart perfect children. I would absolutely go for another if it weren’t for my age. I know plenty of women my age who have/had/want children but most of them married later. I got married at age 29 and had 3 kids during my 30s.

Would you go for a fourth child at age 42?

I did conceive all of my children in the first or second month of trying so I was very fertile.

No.

I had my one and only at 39 (yes, married later) and there's no way I'd even consider another. A fourth at 42 sounds insane to me.

We have a friend who had a fourth at 41 and I thought she was nuts and here I am a year later wanting the fourth too.

I think I could convince DH but scared about the risks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your youngest?

My youngest is 4. I want to give the youngest a baby sibling.

This is your reason? So what will you give your fourth then? A fifth baby?!?

[Anonymous]

Go for it. I want a big family too.

I’ll probably have my 4th in my early 40s as well

[Anonymous]

actively trying for a third at 41 now.

[Anonymous]

If my DH were up for it, I would have another in a heartbeat. My timeline and very similar to yours, but my DH is happy to be done with the baby stage and doesn’t want to go back. I would love to have one more and feel like we could easily handle it, financially and otherwise, and I would be okay with the risk of a child with special needs (just as I was for my first three!) It isn’t going to happen for me, but I wish it could!