Would you date a man with a child?

[Anonymous]

He does not see. He does pay child support. It was an ONS if that makes a difference, and the mom doesn't want him involved.

[Anonymous]

Better question- what kind of man does not want to be involved in his child’s life? Are you sure you want to date that man?

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned. I married a man with kids. Mom was horrible and slowly pushed him out of the kids life (but I could verify it all and he wanted to be a dad) and fought it in court several times. A man who paid child support and didn't care, no. A man who has tried over and over again, yes.

[Anonymous]

It would be a deal breaker for me, yes. "The mom doesn't want him involved" is BS. He has a legal right to be a parent if he wants to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would be a deal breaker for me, yes. "The mom doesn't want him involved" is BS. He has a legal right to be a parent if he wants to.

Also, I really really doubt there’s a single mom out there who couldn’t use a weekend off. I could see it wouldn’t be worth it if the dad was unreliable or had bad judgment—but if he was a reasonably responsible “good” person? Come on. There’s no reason she wouldn’t want some involvement. You need to take off your love blinders and see him for who he is. And he is someone who can walk away from his child.

[Anonymous]

There are a handful of valid reasons the court would not allow one parent custody, none of them are flattering.

There are also a handful of reasons a parent might not want to actively parent a child or teen, many people have unrealistic and underwhelming expectations of parenting.

[Anonymous]

Tough question. Do you want a relationship with him one day that would include children with him?

If not, I don’t think this is a big deal, in theory. He provides financially and assuming mom is a stable parent with good support system and a loving partner/step father, the child doesn’t “need” a relationship with a biological father.

But I would take pause in why she decided this? I could see myself doing this if I had a ONS with a drug addicted vagrant (but super hot of course).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would be a deal breaker for me, yes. "The mom doesn't want him involved" is BS. He has a legal right to be a parent if he wants to.

Also, I really really doubt there’s a single mom out there who couldn’t use a weekend off. I could see it wouldn’t be worth it if the dad was unreliable or had bad judgment—but if he was a reasonably responsible “good” person? Come on. There’s no reason she wouldn’t want some involvement. You need to take off your love blinders and see him for who he is. And he is someone who can walk away from his child.

It doesn't say she's a single mother, though. If she had another partner, they could both not want this guy in their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would be a deal breaker for me, yes. "The mom doesn't want him involved" is BS. He has a legal right to be a parent if he wants to.

Also, I really really doubt there’s a single mom out there who couldn’t use a weekend off. I could see it wouldn’t be worth it if the dad was unreliable or had bad judgment—but if he was a reasonably responsible “good” person? Come on. There’s no reason she wouldn’t want some involvement. You need to take off your love blinders and see him for who he is. And he is someone who can walk away from his child.

It doesn't say she's a single mother, though. If she had another partner, they could both not want this guy in their lives.

It's not really relevant. Dad has rights and the child has rights to a relationship so long as father is fit he could legally fight for visitation, and shared custody etc.

[Anonymous]

I dated and married a man with two kids. I would not date a man who was not involved with his child(ren).

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Depends on why I am dating him. For fun? Sure. But I would not consider him for a LTR because eventually there will be drama.

[Anonymous]

A man with kids would be a deal breaker at my age (30) because I have enough options right now. But I would never get involved with a man who isn't involved in his child's life, that would be an ultimate deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would be a deal breaker for me, yes. "The mom doesn't want him involved" is BS. He has a legal right to be a parent if he wants to.

Also, I really really doubt there’s a single mom out there who couldn’t use a weekend off. I could see it wouldn’t be worth it if the dad was unreliable or had bad judgment—but if he was a reasonably responsible “good” person? Come on. There’s no reason she wouldn’t want some involvement. You need to take off your love blinders and see him for who he is. And he is someone who can walk away from his child.

It's amazing how quick you people will trash men. There are many women who will do and say whatever it takes to keep their children away from this husbands. These types of comments are stupid. Woman are just as bad, of not worse, than men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

+1. No effing way.