"Thank You" works too

[Anonymous]

I was cooking dinner as my wife poured a glass of wine for herself. I mentioned that I'd picked up a bottle of wine for her when I was at the store. Her response, "you should always just get six." I guess there's a deal with six and it's always better to have more around. But, I have to say, that irritated me. I did something nice, and here she's offering a critique on how I could do more for her.

I mean, I'm no hero - the dinner is spaghetti and it was just one bottle of wine. But, Jesus, if someone does something nice, just say "thank you" and go about your business.

[Anonymous]

How often do you thank her when she goes shopping?

[Anonymous]

Do you say thank you to her?

[Anonymous]

Whatever my faults, I’m unfailingly polite. If she picked up a 6-pack for me, I would never in a million years think a good response would be to say “shoulda been a case.”

[Anonymous]

You’re both right.

Yes, she should have said, “Thanks! Next time just pick up 6 bottles.”

And, you should realize that it’s ok for her to tell you to pick up 6 next time. That’s not a criticism. It doesn’t mean she isn’t grateful.

[Anonymous]

It sucks to not be appreciated. I'm sorry. That feels like crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whatever my faults, I’m unfailingly polite. If she picked up a 6-pack for me, I would never in a million years think a good response would be to say “shoulda been a case.”

She made you spaghetti. Did you say anything?

[Anonymous]

I'm always polite. It is the little things that can add up to big things. Hopefully your Friday night will get better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re both right.

Yes, she should have said, “Thanks! Next time just pick up 6 bottles.”

And, you should realize that it’s ok for her to tell you to pick up 6 next time. That’s not a criticism. It doesn’t mean she isn’t grateful.

NP. No, she should have said "Thanks! That was nice of you." Full stop. Then another time, she could say, "Hey babe, next time you get wine, would you mind getting a few more bottles next time?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re both right.

Yes, she should have said, “Thanks! Next time just pick up 6 bottles.”

And, you should realize that it’s ok for her to tell you to pick up 6 next time. That’s not a criticism. It doesn’t mean she isn’t grateful.

NP. No, she should have said "Thanks! That was nice of you." Full stop. Then another time, she could say, "Hey babe, next time you get wine, would you mind getting a few more bottles next time?"

Doh, should've reread that. You know what I meant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Whatever my faults, I’m unfailingly polite. If she picked up a 6-pack for me, I would never in a million years think a good response would be to say “shoulda been a case.”


She made you spaghetti. Did you say anything?

no he made her spaghetti. and bought the wine.

I definitely try to say thank you but I'm sure I lapse occasionally--as does my spouse. I might gently remind him though and he immediately is apologetic (and vice versa). Yes, she should have said thank you but I think instead of stewing about it, you could say lightheartedly "you're welcome sweetheart". That would work in our marriage, anyway, as a reminder.

[Anonymous]

Use your words and tell her, not the Internet, that a “thank you” when you did something nice would be appreciated.

Then you’ll be a Big Boy!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Whatever my faults, I’m unfailingly polite. If she picked up a 6-pack for me, I would never in a million years think a good response would be to say “shoulda been a case.”


She made you spaghetti. Did you say anything?

no he made her spaghetti. and bought the wine.

I definitely try to say thank you but I'm sure I lapse occasionally--as does my spouse. I might gently remind him though and he immediately is apologetic (and vice versa). Yes, she should have said thank you but I think instead of stewing about it, you could say lightheartedly "you're welcome sweetheart". That would work in our marriage, anyway, as a reminder.

Don’t let this define your night. We have all lapsed, had brain farts and forgot to say thank you. Enjoy your lovely wine and spaghetti, which sounds like a nice dinner.

[Anonymous]

Hey hon. I picked up a beer for tonight.

One beer.

Ummm okay ... thanks, I guess?!?

[Anonymous]

She didn't offer to pour you a glass?