"Thank You" works too

[Anonymous]

Which hero in the family is getting 1 bottle of wine for dinner tonight?

Will there be banners and balloons upon their return?

[Anonymous]

My H notoriously comes home with 12 limes.

I need 2 limes.

But it was 12/2.50.

Okay but 2 I don’t need 12.

I doubt it’s the 1st time she told you that there is a discount when you buy 6. If you listen and learned she wouldn’t have to remind you.

I need 1 avocado but it was 5 for $10. I just can’t get over that he will never get that you don’t have to buy the number on the sign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I doubt it’s the 1st time she told you that there is a discount when you buy 6. If you listen and learned she wouldn’t have to remind you.

0 is cheaper still!

[Anonymous]

So who heroically picked up wine today? Inquiring minds want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My H notoriously comes home with 12 limes.

I need 2 limes.

But it was 12/2.50.

Okay but 2 I don’t need 12.

I doubt it’s the 1st time she told you that there is a discount when you buy 6. If you listen and learned she wouldn’t have to remind you.

I need 1 avocado but it was 5 for $10. I just can’t get over that he will never get that you don’t have to buy the number on the sign.

OMG, are you me?! If not, you're definitely married to my husband!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So who heroically picked up wine today? Inquiring minds want to know.

Heroically drank a bottle. For Jesus.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So who heroically picked up wine today? Inquiring minds want to know.

Heroically drank a bottle. For Jesus.

Not possible the 1 bottle was drank last night.

Oh wait OP thinks he’s Jesus so maybe he turned water to wine today.

[Anonymous]

Here's the issue. In a good relationship both people still are nice to each other. They both still want to love and respect the other person. In a bad relationship at least one person doesn't care anymore.

Small things like "thank you" or doing things to make the other person's life easier...in a marriage those are make or break items.

By the time spouses realize it, it's too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the issue. In a good relationship both people still are nice to each other. They both still want to love and respect the other person. In a bad relationship at least one person doesn't care anymore.

Small things like "thank you" or doing things to make the other person's life easier...in a marriage those are make or break items.

By the time spouses realize it, it's too late.

This. Saying thanks even for small things can go a long way. It also teaches the kids how to show gratitude as well. I thank my DH, kids, co-workers, grocery staff and everyone between every chance I get. It has gotten me far it life.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you think her for buying milk?

WTF ... do we have to think you for picking up napkins too?

I’m a wife and yes, my husband does thank me for picking up groceries.

Every single one of us has felt a bit slighted or a little bit hurt for not feeling appreciated. his feeling are normal and happen on the wife side all the time.

That’s pathetic that your H thanks you every time you... grocery shop, do laundry, do some dishes, mow the lawn, clean the kitchen, rake the leaves, get the oil changed, flip a pancake.


Jesus people this is just life nobody needs to thank you for getting the Fing mail!

I'm with pp. I thank my husband for those things because I am actually quite grateful. I hated it -- HATED it! -- when he didn't say thank you or acknowledge things I'd done. My DH doesn't like being thanked, he thinks it is just stuff you need to do. But I think it is important to show gratitude for the small things (and the big). Why would you think it was pathetic that somebody had done something to make you feel good and cared for, and they say thank you for that??

I'm sorry you can't understand that other people have different feelings, and that you are so aggressively angry at the world right now. Maybe you should try some yoga, or meditation, or a gratitude journal.

I’m sorry you are so aggressively needy.

But thanks for responding to my post I don’t want you to think I’m ungrateful that you took your precious time to type out your psychotic response.

Sorry have to go and thank my son for taking the dog out, thank my H for pouring me more wine, thank my daughter for getting the Amazon package from the porch.

You are funny. I WOULD thank my son for taking the dog out, thank my H for pouring me more wint, and thank my daughter for picking the Amazon package up from the porch. Why not? I'm glad to hear you've realized that expressing gratitude is important.

I know you think your the normal one but you are not. It’s bizarre nobody in you family can take their own dog out without expecting a thank you. Do you think your kids for wiping their own butt?

NP and I agree with the thanker.

NP and also agree with the thanker. That’s how our family operates as well.

[Anonymous]

This is like if you picked up a candy bar for your S/O as an off-hand way of saying you were thinking of them and, instead of appreciating it, they told you to get a bag of candy next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is like if you picked up a candy bar for your S/O as an off-hand way of saying you were thinking of them and, instead of appreciating it, they told you to get a bag of candy next time.

Solution-oriented people address this directly with their spouse, and do not run to the Internet to whine.

OP wasn't unjustified in feeling hurt, but...now what? Next time she does or says something similar, he'll inner-seethe "I'm telllllllling!" and come yap on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:This is like if you picked up a candy bar for your S/O as an off-hand way of saying you were thinking of them and, instead of appreciating it, they told you to get a bag of candy next time.

Solution-oriented people address this directly with their spouse, and do not run to the Internet to whine.

OP wasn't unjustified in feeling hurt, but...now what? Next time she does or says something similar, he'll inner-seethe "I'm telllllllling!" and come yap on DCUM.

The whole relationship forum would be nuked if people followed your approach.