Spouse Telling People in Our Circle We Are Separating

[Anonymous]

Before we have worked out a single particular. We are still in the house together, I haven't mentioned it to a single person and I honestly wasn't even 100% convinced we were done.

[Anonymous]

I guess you are done, op. Sorry. It sounds like the two of you are really not on the same page anymore. Hopefully this separation winds up being for the best.

[Anonymous]

Tacky af.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. It hurts, but not like emptying the joint account or taking the dog. You might want to consult a lawyer ASAP about securing your finances.

[Anonymous]

Take him at his word. Do the 180.

[Anonymous]

It only takes one

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. But it sounds like he's pretty much 100% convinced you're done - it doesn't have to be a mutual decision.

[Anonymous]

OMG how ridiculously rude. You are definitely done.

[Anonymous]

Well I guess your spouse is convinced you are done or else is looking for sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I guess your spouse is convinced you are done or else is looking for sympathy.

I think it's his way of making sure it happens. By putting it out there, he is putting the wheels in motion.

Really crappy thing to do, ESPECIALLY if you have kids!! They will hear about from others before you.

[Anonymous]

This is only one side of the story. Maybe to the spouse irs been done and that’s been communicated a thousand times and you just won’t listen.

[Anonymous]

I'm a private person and I would hate this, but it sure would give me the push to be done already. I would no longer vacillate in my mind about whether to do it; it would be all about how to accomplish the separation as quickly and as easily for the kids as possible. Perhaps it would be a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I guess your spouse is convinced you are done or else is looking for sympathy.

I think it's his way of making sure it happens. By putting it out there, he is putting the wheels in motion.

Really crappy thing to do, ESPECIALLY if you have kids!! They will hear about from others before you.

This is what it sounds like to me too. OP, I'm so sorry. What a terrible thing for him to do. There's no need to announce it to people and it ensures a bumpy road to divorce and an even bumpier road to even think about reconciliation.

If you have kids, then this is an even worse thing to do. Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I guess your spouse is convinced you are done or else is looking for sympathy.

I think it's his way of making sure it happens. By putting it out there, he is putting the wheels in motion.

Really crappy thing to do, ESPECIALLY if you have kids!! They will hear about from others before you.

Wondering this too. I've seen this situation played out before and one spouse kept saying how they had NO idea other spouse was serious and that the rug had been pulled out from under them. Except a few of us knew they had been discussing it for months and that person refused to believe the other spouse that the marriage was over.

[Anonymous]

You don’t get to dictate others response.