Brutal relationship advice from the internet’s most ruthless dating site

[Anonymous]

This article had me simultaneously laughing hysterically and gasping in shock.

Men are 'ass garbage', and they need to be 'ruthlessly evaluated' before you form an emotional attachment.

Female Dating Strategy looks like your standard self-help site, but critics say its philosophy is nothing more than toxic misandry.

In order to “level up” from this state and achieve “queen” or “dreamgirl” status, women have to build their self-esteem and avoid “scrotes” (dickheads, otherwise known as most men). They can do this in a number of ways, including focusing on their career or having a few men in “scrotation” (dating rotation).

Women are warned off having sex in the first three months of courtship and told to avoid – at all costs – moving in with a boyfriend before marriage. After all, for men, a live-in girlfriend is just “like a video game achievement that unlocks regular, free sex and half off your rent”. Why would they want to marry you after that?

https://www.vice.com/en/article/akdm4a/female-dating-strategy-relationship-advice

[Anonymous]

That seems like an extreme reaction

[Anonymous]

I thought men were the ones who supposedly wanted to avoid having a woman move in. Too much of a commitment and all of that.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a bunch of bitter angry cat ladies dispensing advice to young gullible women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This article had me simultaneously laughing hysterically and gasping in shock.

Men are 'ass garbage', and they need to be 'ruthlessly evaluated' before you form an emotional attachment.

Female Dating Strategy looks like your standard self-help site, but critics say its philosophy is nothing more than toxic misandry.

In order to “level up” from this state and achieve “queen” or “dreamgirl” status, women have to build their self-esteem and avoid “scrotes” (dickheads, otherwise known as most men). They can do this in a number of ways, including focusing on their career or having a few men in “scrotation” (dating rotation).

Women are warned off having sex in the first three months of courtship and told to avoid – at all costs – moving in with a boyfriend before marriage. After all, for men, a live-in girlfriend is just “like a video game achievement that unlocks regular, free sex and half off your rent”. Why would they want to marry you after that?

https://www.vice.com/en/article/akdm4a/female-dating-strategy-relationship-advice

"Female dating strategy" is basically just "female incels". Similar to incels, they aren't unsuccessful in love because they're not picky enough they're unsuccessful because they're angry/toxic people and no man or woman wants to be around that.

Whenever someone asks me for dating advice I boil it down to 3 tips: 1. Be nice to him 2. Enjoy having sex with him. 3. Respect him. Stop it with all this "I'M A QUEEN! I'M GOING TO WITHHOLD SEX AND PLAY GAMES" nonsense. Like seeks like and when you behave like that you don't attract quality men.

[Anonymous]

My dating advice to most women is be highly educated, keep fit, get a high paying job and concentrate on your career, cultivate yourself, date extensively, don't be in a hurry to marry and once married don't be on a hurry to have kids.

Freeze your eggs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dating advice to most women is be highly educated, keep fit, get a high paying job and concentrate on your career, cultivate yourself, date extensively, don't be in a hurry to marry and once married don't be on a hurry to have kids.

Freeze your eggs.

Also -

I am ok with women not wanting sex unless they want sex. They don't have to sleep with a guy to get a guy. Evaluate and sleep with a guy when you want.

Be nice and caring to the guy. No drama and games. Also don't accept drama and games from the guy.

When a guy shows you who he is, believe him.

Before marriage get marital and financial counseling.

Leave a bad marriage before having kids. Kids don't fix a bad marriage.

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing. I think the issue with this approach is the emphasis on gender. What if you take out this advice and eliminate the male/female aspect of it?

Then the message is that you need to hold yourself in high-esteem, not leap into more serious levels of a relationship (sex) or deeper levels of financial entanglement (living together) until you can be really confident that you are with someone who is very good person who is mentally healthy and will treat you with respect.

That's advice I'd want my son OR my daughter to follow. Reading various advice columns is a favorite pastime for me, and I'm always struck by how much garbage both male and female letter writers put up with in relationships. Reframing the pursuit of intimate relationships into a message of self-care and empowerment I think would prevent a lot of unhappiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought men were the ones who supposedly wanted to avoid having a woman move in. Too much of a commitment and all of that.

No, too much risk.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know that this is bad advice. Break-ups are hard and heartbreaking, and they can be a lot of baggage to carry into your next relationship. Better to just end things when you know they aren’t going to work, and not to move in together until you are talking marriage.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t seem like terrible advice. I particularly think pushing back in the arbitrary “men expect sex by the third date” bs is good. Women should have Alex when they feel comfortable doing so and when they’d like to and that’s often (mostly!) not by the third date. Many have been socialized to fake being good with it because they’re “chill.”

[Anonymous]

My advice:

1. Do at least 2 years of therapy
2. Only date men who have done at least 2 years of therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice:

1. Do at least 2 years of therapy
2. Only date men who have done at least 2 years of therapy

Sounds like you think there are a lot of therapists out there who want the most boring job ever.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the metaphor that Little Red Riding Hood tells. Stay on the path. Avoid the hungry wolves (wealthy men who will use you and discard you)

[Anonymous]

Pickmeishas” are women who are desperate or who “degrade” themselves for men. This behaviour can lead to “Cockholm Syndrome”, where they end up defending “the worst men beyond all logic or reason”.

I recognize the term and acknowledge that this exists; but this is as bad and bitter as chump lady. On steroids. Not a good path to recovery. It’s the MRA equivalent for women. Not a healthy attitude IMO