Sleep training a newborn

[Anonymous]

If you sleep trained before 4 months, how did it go? Did it work?

[Anonymous]

Disastrous, didn't work. The baby cried so much that the pediatrician asked me to table it. We tried again at 8 months with success. This was a particularly challenging baby though - my other two slept through the night. on their own prior to 3 months needing no training at all. I don't think most babies are like this.

[Anonymous]

We started lightly sleep training around 3 months, ie easing into it and trying to get to a schedule. We never let baby cry more than 10-15 min. Worked very well and baby has slept through the night very well starting around 4.5 months. Read 12 hours by 12 weeks.

[Anonymous]

It’s too early. Wait a couple mos.

[Anonymous]

Define what you mean by “sleep train.”
If it’s put the baby down and let them cry it out for some set amount of time to train them to fall asleep, then absolutely no. Do not do this. Full stop.

If you mean following a routine each night with specific activities, ie at 7pm, give bath, nurse, rock and then put down when drowsy, then fine. But absolutely no cry it out.

[Anonymous]

What? Why do that?

[Anonymous]

OP here. My baby is almost 4 months old and I know they say to wait until 4-6 months to sleep train. My baby has not been a good sleeper. He can self-soothe and wakes up multiple times a night to be rocked to sleep. Sometimes it’s every 30-45 minutes. He is such a light sleeper that anything will wake him up. Naps are held because he can’t sleep on his own. I’m back at work and the lack of sleep is getting to me. My husband is involved as does as much as possible, but he works FT. I’m really losing it and want to sleep train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define what you mean by “sleep train.”
If it’s put the baby down and let them cry it out for some set amount of time to train them to fall asleep, then absolutely no. Do not do this. Full stop.

If you mean following a routine each night with specific activities, ie at 7pm, give bath, nurse, rock and then put down when drowsy, then fine. But absolutely no cry it out.

OP here. I don’t think it will work without crying. I plan to sue the Ferber method with timed check-ins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My baby is almost 4 months old and I know they say to wait until 4-6 months to sleep train. My baby has not been a good sleeper. He can self-soothe and wakes up multiple times a night to be rocked to sleep. Sometimes it’s every 30-45 minutes. He is such a light sleeper that anything will wake him up. Naps are held because he can’t sleep on his own. I’m back at work and the lack of sleep is getting to me. My husband is involved as does as much as possible, but he works FT. I’m really losing it and want to sleep train.

Does he have a white noise machine in his room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define what you mean by “sleep train.”
If it’s put the baby down and let them cry it out for some set amount of time to train them to fall asleep, then absolutely no. Do not do this. Full stop.

If you mean following a routine each night with specific activities, ie at 7pm, give bath, nurse, rock and then put down when drowsy, then fine. But absolutely no cry it out.

OP here. I don’t think it will work without crying. I plan to sue the Ferber method with timed check-ins.

Have you read Ferber from cover to cover? What does he say about age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My baby is almost 4 months old and I know they say to wait until 4-6 months to sleep train. My baby has not been a good sleeper. He can self-soothe and wakes up multiple times a night to be rocked to sleep. Sometimes it’s every 30-45 minutes. He is such a light sleeper that anything will wake him up. Naps are held because he can’t sleep on his own. I’m back at work and the lack of sleep is getting to me. My husband is involved as does as much as possible, but he works FT. I’m really losing it and want to sleep train.

Does he have a white noise machine in his room?

OP here. Yes but that doesn’t help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My baby is almost 4 months old and I know they say to wait until 4-6 months to sleep train. My baby has not been a good sleeper. He can self-soothe and wakes up multiple times a night to be rocked to sleep. Sometimes it’s every 30-45 minutes. He is such a light sleeper that anything will wake him up. Naps are held because he can’t sleep on his own. I’m back at work and the lack of sleep is getting to me. My husband is involved as does as much as possible, but he works FT. I’m really losing it and want to sleep train.

Op, this is EXACTLY what I’m going through. 3.5 months. Please keep us posted on what you do. No advice but commiserations. Who holds him to sleep for naps if you’re back at work? I’m having to go back soon too

[Anonymous]

We did CIO at 3.5 months for three babies and it was great. Baby 4 is only 7 weeks but I’m open to doing it again. (This time we have a Snoo so maybe we won’t have to.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My baby is almost 4 months old and I know they say to wait until 4-6 months to sleep train. My baby has not been a good sleeper. He can self-soothe and wakes up multiple times a night to be rocked to sleep. Sometimes it’s every 30-45 minutes. He is such a light sleeper that anything will wake him up. Naps are held because he can’t sleep on his own. I’m back at work and the lack of sleep is getting to me. My husband is involved as does as much as possible, but he works FT. I’m really losing it and want to sleep train.

Op, this is EXACTLY what I’m going through. 3.5 months. Please keep us posted on what you do. No advice but commiserations. Who holds him to sleep for naps if you’re back at work? I’m having to go back soon too

OP here. We take turns and we have my MIL helping it during the days I work.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I feel you, that age was the worst for us.

Basically every book I could get my hands on said you had to wait until 4 months for CIO, so I think you gotta grin and bear it a few more weeks. You’re sooo close!!

There are gentle sleep training things you can try (like pick up put down, shush pat, bedtime routines, giving them 5 mins to see if they settle themselves, I think The Baby Whisperer has some stuff on that.

I will say that when our LO was 3 months and 29 days, we had a particularly awful day and caved two days early and did CIO. But I would really try to hold off until 4 months or very close to it if you can.