What's The Girl Equivalent Of A Nice Guy?

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What's The Girl Equivalent Of A Nice Guy?

[Anonymous]

Good girl, I guess. As in, girls are always told to be one, but guys actually want pretty wild/slutty/bitchy girls as long as they're also hot?

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The financially successful "independent" woman who is frustrated that she has no dating options because she can't find a guy that makes more than her.

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Anonymous wrote:The financially successful "independent" woman who is frustrated that she has no dating options because she can't find a guy that makes more than her.

Agreed. And this struggle is so real. Sigh

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Anonymous wrote:Good girl, I guess. As in, girls are always told to be one, but guys actually want pretty wild/slutty/bitchy girls as long as they're also hot?

Eh, I don't think so. With the "Nice Guy" there's a lot of self-pity and resentment that's missing from the "Good Girl" trope. The "Nice Guy" feels like he's owed something.

I think the equivalent to the "Nice Guy" is the "Can't Find a Good Man" woman: in-shape, good career/income, like to travel, good friendships....but "I can't find a 'good' man." Complains about the duds she meets, no guy ever measures up to her expectations.

For every "Nice Guy" there's a "Can't Find a 'Good' Man" woman. They despise each other and cancel each other out.

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Girl-Next-Door Type

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good girl, I guess. As in, girls are always told to be one, but guys actually want pretty wild/slutty/bitchy girls as long as they're also hot?

Eh, I don't think so. With the "Nice Guy" there's a lot of self-pity and resentment that's missing from the "Good Girl" trope. The "Nice Guy" feels like he's owed something.

I think the equivalent to the "Nice Guy" is the "Can't Find a Good Man" woman: in-shape, good career/income, like to travel, good friendships....but "I can't find a 'good' man." Complains about the duds she meets, no guy ever measures up to her expectations.

For every "Nice Guy" there's a "Can't Find a 'Good' Man" woman. They despise each other and cancel each other out.

You just called out the two girls above you. S

[Anonymous]

By "Nice Guy," I assume we're talking about the guy who hovers around a woman, pretending to be her friend, then -- not actually being so nice -- gets pissed when the woman never wants to have sex with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good girl, I guess. As in, girls are always told to be one, but guys actually want pretty wild/slutty/bitchy girls as long as they're also hot?

Eh, I don't think so. With the "Nice Guy" there's a lot of self-pity and resentment that's missing from the "Good Girl" trope. The "Nice Guy" feels like he's owed something.

I think the equivalent to the "Nice Guy" is the "Can't Find a Good Man" woman: in-shape, good career/income, like to travel, good friendships....but "I can't find a 'good' man." Complains about the duds she meets, no guy ever measures up to her expectations.

For every "Nice Guy" there's a "Can't Find a 'Good' Man" woman. They despise each other and cancel each other out.

That's a fair point. I was thinking of it more from the POV of the teen rom com character who finishes last until the third act, but once you factor in a decade of resentment it's not as cute.

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The girl next door.

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Girl next door

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A virgin.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The financially successful "independent" woman who is frustrated that she has no dating options because she can't find a guy that makes more than her.

Agreed. And this struggle is so real. Sigh

Seems like your struggle is a choice. Choose otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:By "Nice Guy," I assume we're talking about the guy who hovers around a woman, pretending to be her friend, then -- not actually being so nice -- gets pissed when the woman never wants to have sex with him?

Yes. "Nice guys" aren't nice. They feel entitled to things, and they scream about being nice, but it's about getting what they "deserve," not what they actually deserve.

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl next door married to a nice guy. We had no shortage of dates or interest. In fact, DH was the 3rd guy to propose to me. "Nice guys finish last" definitely didn't work for me or my friends. All the nice guys/girls are married very happily and all the "bad boys" are divorced.