How to handle vaccinated MIL visit

[Anonymous]

We have barely seen my MIL for a year; she lives two hours away and sees DH's sister and her kids regularly; they are in a pod.
She is now vaccinated, and my DH wants her to come visit and see our kids, which I'm totally on board with.
The issue is, we don't know much about transmission yet -- our doctor has said we can't give it to her (or she'd have a much lower risk of getting seriously sick), but we don't know if a vaccinated person can still transmit the virus.

The issue is she is very involved with her daughter (my SIL)'s kids and life; SIL's kids go to school and are actually in quarantine now due to a COVID exposure. MIL and SIL see each other all the time. I would like to ask her to not see them for a week prior to coming to see us. SIL is already very defensive about our COVID choices and tends to sound off. I don't want to cause a rift. But I do want to see my MIL safely.

How can we go about broaching this and ensuring we all feel comfortable?? Thanks

[Anonymous]

It's fair to ask MIL to only see SIL outdoors and/or masked for a week before visiting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's fair to ask MIL to only see SIL outdoors and/or masked for a week before visiting.

Agree. After they are done with their quarantine.

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and impose additional conditions on MIL if you want her to be even less involved with your kids. Seriously, it depends on your goals. Do you want more or less of her in your life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go ahead and impose additional conditions on MIL if you want her to be even less involved with your kids. Seriously, it depends on your goals. Do you want more or less of her in your life?

Yes, absolutely, by all means. This. Defer to the feelings of your MIL and don't ask her to do something eminently reasonable so that she is not slightly inconvenienced and you can prioritize protecting your own family against risks that are unknown and scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go ahead and impose additional conditions on MIL if you want her to be even less involved with your kids. Seriously, it depends on your goals. Do you want more or less of her in your life?

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[Anonymous]

I don’t think this is a big risk, honestly. There just isn’t evidence showing that vaccinated or immune people are transmitting this virus. We know that asymptomatic transmission is lower than symptomatic transmission anyways.

[Anonymous]

I think the risk would be low for all of you. If it were me, I would love to have a MIL visit after such a long absence.

[Anonymous]

The odds of your fully vaccinated MIL 1) contracting Covid and 2) having a high enough viral load to transmit it to your family are very low. The risk is not zero, but it is very low. I can't tell you what your level of comfort should be, but I would let her come without additional quarantining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is a big risk, honestly. There just isn’t evidence showing that vaccinated or immune people are transmitting this virus. We know that asymptomatic transmission is lower than symptomatic transmission anyways.

Arohnd 40% of cases are from asymptomatic transmission. Your statement that asymptomatic transmission is “lower” is correct... but another way to say it would be “almost half”. Tomato, tamahto.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The odds of your fully vaccinated MIL 1) contracting Covid and 2) having a high enough viral load to transmit it to your family are very low. The risk is not zero, but it is very low. I can't tell you what your level of comfort should be, but I would let her come without additional quarantining.

We don’t know the answer to #2 at this time, which is why vaccinated people still have to wear masks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The odds of your fully vaccinated MIL 1) contracting Covid and 2) having a high enough viral load to transmit it to your family are very low. The risk is not zero, but it is very low. I can't tell you what your level of comfort should be, but I would let her come without additional quarantining.

We don’t know the answer to #2 at this time, which is why vaccinated people still have to wear masks

Vaccinated people still have to wear masks because public health officials don’t trust the general public. And they shouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

If your MIL is vaccinated, just have her wear a mask, except when eating, during her visit. Vaccinated individuals should mount an immune response that keeps the viral load either non-existent or very low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the risk would be low for all of you. If it were me, I would love to have a MIL visit after such a long absence.

We want her to visit too -- safely!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is a big risk, honestly. There just isn’t evidence showing that vaccinated or immune people are transmitting this virus. We know that asymptomatic transmission is lower than symptomatic transmission anyways.

+1


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