39 and broke up with my ex

[Anonymous]

39 and broke up with my ex of 5 yrs. Found him on cfm, tinder, and hinge. He was a doctor and i met him when he wasnt and didnt make a lot. I got very angry after the cheating and told people he knew about it. He lied and denied. Did I make the right choice? Have I blown my chances of ever having a family with a man?

[Anonymous]

You would have been stupid to stay with him. Find a therapist (there are online options) because this type of ending after 5 years is traumatic.

[Anonymous]

No shame in starting a family on your own

[Anonymous]

If he didn’t marry you by 39, he wouldn’t have. You made the right choice to leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You would have been stupid to stay with him. Find a therapist (there are online options) because this type of ending after 5 years is traumatic.

Agree. I am still so angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he didn’t marry you by 39, he wouldn’t have. You made the right choice to leave.

I left because of the cheating. We did talk marriage but he would lie about stupid things sometimes. He had a wandering eye and think he cheated before this. Our friend told me he is dating a 28 yr old now who supports him and believes everything he says. Shes not hot by the way for the ones focusing on age and looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he didn’t marry you by 39, he wouldn’t have. You made the right choice to leave.

I left because of the cheating. We did talk marriage but he would lie about stupid things sometimes. He had a wandering eye and think he cheated before this. Our friend told me he is dating a 28 yr old now who supports him and believes everything he says. Shes not hot by the way for the ones focusing on age and looks.

You absolutely make the correct choice. You do NOT want to be married to someone like that. And you most certainly do NOT want to start a family with someone like that. Trust me. Be happy you got away from him. Kudos to you, you made a hard but great decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he didn’t marry you by 39, he wouldn’t have. You made the right choice to leave.

I left because of the cheating. We did talk marriage but he would lie about stupid things sometimes. He had a wandering eye and think he cheated before this. Our friend told me he is dating a 28 yr old now who supports him and believes everything he says. Shes not hot by the way for the ones focusing on age and looks.

You absolutely make the correct choice. You do NOT want to be married to someone like that. And you most certainly do NOT want to start a family with someone like that. Trust me. Be happy you got away from him. Kudos to you, you made a hard but great decision.

+1. Now remove his funky aura from your atmosphere ans make room for good energy that you can welcome and attract because you have it to share. I’m sorry he was a cheating rat bastard but 39 is better than 49! 😊

[Anonymous]

You made the right decision by leaving.

you made the wrong decision telling everyone about it thinking somehow you could win.

You are making the wrong decision now by keeping up with what he's doing with friends and comparing yourself to the new woman in his life.

You can make the right decision again by getting into therapy and no longer be concerned with what he's doing or who he's doing it with.

You can still have a family, it may look different than what you envisioned but it's possible.

I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You made the right decision by leaving.

you made the wrong decision telling everyone about it thinking somehow you could win.

You are making the wrong decision now by keeping up with what he's doing with friends and comparing yourself to the new woman in his life.

You can make the right decision again by getting into therapy and no longer be concerned with what he's doing or who he's doing it with.

You can still have a family, it may look different than what you envisioned but it's possible.

I wish you the best.

+1 good advice op I hope you take it to heart

[Anonymous]

Rest assured, you made the right choice. No question. You are gonna marry someone and have a baby with someone who parades his sick on dating websites? Come on now. You want to get STDs? This person is a liar with no no ethics and he won’t change. You are better off without a dishonest piece of $hit like this.

Look for a kind honest person that makes you happy. Or be alone and be happy. But not with an asshole that wants to cheat and create drama. No you don’t want an effed up life like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he didn’t marry you by 39, he wouldn’t have. You made the right choice to leave.

I left because of the cheating. We did talk marriage but he would lie about stupid things sometimes. He had a wandering eye and think he cheated before this. Our friend told me he is dating a 28 yr old now who supports him and believes everything he says. Shes not hot by the way for the ones focusing on age and looks.

Why does everyone on these boards assume that all 20 something women are hot and have great bodies. The vast majority of them are not.

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing to break up with him. You did the wrong thing to go and tell a bunch of people he knows. That is childish and reflects poorly on you. They don't care, neither do the younger hot nurses at work. He's already moved on.

You do the same. Find someone better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did the right thing to break up with him. You did the wrong thing to go and tell a bunch of people he knows. That is childish and reflects poorly on you. They don't care, neither do the younger hot nurses at work. He's already moved on.

You do the same. Find someone better.

Again, not everyone who is young is hot. And when is the last time you saw a “young hot nurse?” Some of you live in a fantasy land of stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing worse than being married to the wrong person. While some people are too picky on superficial stuff, not being treated well should always be a dealbreaker.