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I love that you said that. I think it always comes back to the lack of reading comprehension from a sizable portion of the users, and the competitive jealousy of parents that keeps this thread going. |
And the SY crowd trying to convince people that the change means instant domination for certain players who will now have their talents recognized and that tons of kids will now stop quitting soccer (even though there's a new youngest of the group!) |
Don't forget the toxic trolls. They are keeping up with their part! |
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PP don’t engage. This topic was 200 pages back. And the “top tier ECNL does play HS” crowd only pointed to sing a SurfSC team that had a couple of boys who played in their private school’s conference tournie, and then a local team that had a couple of girls on JV. They confuse the “why bother” ECNL teams with the ones fighting for the ever shrinking nationals finals spots. There is a vast difference in the top ECNL programs and the rest of ECNL, and there are some programs that have a single great team and mediocre others - not a lot of clubs that are consistently top 20. |
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If GA or MLSN were going SY people would have heard rumors by now. Too many clubs, too many people to keep that under wraps.
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Would we have though? Maybe they're more professionally run organizations that don't drop vague press releases or espouse on podcasts with little to no substance. |
Was their a lack of summer month participation pre 2017 when it was SY? |
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And the SY crowd trying to convince people that the change means instant domination for certain players who will now have their talents recognized and that tons of kids will now stop quitting soccer (even though there's a new youngest of the group!) Its not about being the youngest. Its about being in a different grade. This makes a difference. My daughter is still in elementary school and a majority of her team is in middle school. Nothing to do with skill. All about maturity. She feels left out a lot, because a majority of her team has a phone. She doesn't need a phone in elementary school. So yeah, staying with the same grade is a big deal! |
Go research RAE and you'll find your answer |
Its not about being the youngest. Its about being in a different grade. This makes a difference. My daughter is still in elementary school and a majority of her team is in middle school. Nothing to do with skill. All about maturity. She feels left out a lot, because a majority of her team has a phone. She doesn't need a phone in elementary school. So yeah, staying with the same grade is a big deal! It's a good idea to keep a phone out of her hands for as long as possible, BUT you're saying no one else in her grade doesn't already have a phone and the those same toxic dynamics already don't exist at her school OR even the team below? The change from BY to SY won't save you or any of us from that. |
It's a good idea to keep a phone out of her hands for as long as possible, BUT you're saying no one else in her grade doesn't already have a phone and the those same toxic dynamics already don't exist at her school OR even the team below? The change from BY to SY won't save you or any of us from that. I think we are being a little naive if we can't see that there is difference in maturity level between a kid that is in 7th grade and a kid that is in 6th grade. Of course there are outliers but the majority of 6th graders are going to be less mature than 7th graders, I'm not sure how anyone can even argue that? |
I think we are being a little naive if we can't see that there is difference in maturity level between a kid that is in 7th grade and a kid that is in 6th grade. Of course there are outliers but the majority of 6th graders are going to be less mature than 7th graders, I'm not sure how anyone can even argue that? I think it's a little naive to think that there's really THAT much difference in the maturity level between 6th and 7th graders. Sixth-graders can be and are jerks to other 6th-graders, phone or not. Sounds like you just want your kid to be the oldest, which I understand. |
It's a good idea to keep a phone out of her hands for as long as possible, BUT you're saying no one else in her grade doesn't already have a phone and the those same toxic dynamics already don't exist at her school OR even the team below? The change from BY to SY won't save you or any of us from that. I know it's a micro point in time but I'm experiencing very much the same with my youngest now. He's in fourth grade, most of his team is in 5th. They are getting ready for middle school and he isn't, they have access to summer camps he doesn't because they are only open to incoming 6th graders. Next year it will be an even bigger deal when they are in middle school and he isn't because thats a big jump in social change. Clearly there are kids for whom this doesn't matter, I get that, and congrats to you all, but I think it's more normal for it to be a thing and frankly I couldn't be more sick of people whose kids have always played with kids almost exclusively younger than them for their entire lives telling me it doesn't at all matter when my kid has literally never played with or against anyone younger than him by more than a couple of weeks. |
| These are all great points about the differences between grades and once again highlight the particularly terrible position August-born kids older for their grade are going to be put in if they do not revert to the SY dates put in place for decades pre-2017 (8/1 to 7/31) and instead move to 9/1 to 8/31. |
I know it's a micro point in time but I'm experiencing very much the same with my youngest now. He's in fourth grade, most of his team is in 5th. They are getting ready for middle school and he isn't, they have access to summer camps he doesn't because they are only open to incoming 6th graders. Next year it will be an even bigger deal when they are in middle school and he isn't because thats a big jump in social change. Clearly there are kids for whom this doesn't matter, I get that, and congrats to you all, but I think it's more normal for it to be a thing and frankly I couldn't be more sick of people whose kids have always played with kids almost exclusively younger than them for their entire lives telling me it doesn't at all matter when my kid has literally never played with or against anyone younger than him by more than a couple of weeks. I get it. Kids these days don't always have the best social situations, but OTOH too many parents try to shield their kid from dealing with problems thereby stunting their growth. BUT same grade doesn't guarantee anything when it comes to interpersonal interactions, especially in hyper competitive club soccer. Also on the flip side, playing with and hanging around older kids isn't ALWAYS a negative. Sometimes hanging around MORE mature kids is a better situation. |