Weird situation with guy friend

[Anonymous]

I was asked over to hang out with a male friend last night. We are not super good friends but I’ve always been attracted and interested in him. I don’t really sleep around but it’s been a long time. He has she one some interest in me since we met, but had never made a move. I assumed he was looking to get laid and went with the expectations we would have sex. He ordered in food, we had wine, and watched a movie. He didn’t make a move the entire time I was there. I didn’t make one because I thought maybe I was misreading and he just wanted to hangout. He wants to hangout again but I really don’t know what to think about the situation. I gave him many opportunities to make a move. I’m very confused what he wants.

[Anonymous]

Wear a mask please

[Anonymous]

He’s not into you. Sorry. You could try ha going out with him again one more time and see what if a guys is into a girl, It shouldn’t take this long for him to make a move

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wear a mask please

Can you just post this in response to every thread? It’s super helpful.

My guy friend maybe wants to bang? Wear a mask.

My carbonara didn’t turn out quite right? Wear a mask.

My dog is barking at squirrels and making me crazy? Wear a mask.

My toddler started waking up at 2 am? Wear a mask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wear a mask please

Can you just post this in response to every thread? It’s super helpful.

My guy friend maybe wants to bang? Wear a mask.

My carbonara didn’t turn out quite right? Wear a mask.

My dog is barking at squirrels and making me crazy? Wear a mask.

My toddler started waking up at 2 am? Wear a mask.

The suggestion only applies to your first scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wear a mask please

Can you just post this in response to every thread? It’s super helpful.

My guy friend maybe wants to bang? Wear a mask.

My carbonara didn’t turn out quite right? Wear a mask.

My dog is barking at squirrels and making me crazy? Wear a mask.

My toddler started waking up at 2 am? Wear a mask.

The suggestion only applies to your first scenario.

Super helpful. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was asked over to hang out with a male friend last night. We are not super good friends but I’ve always been attracted and interested in him. I don’t really sleep around but it’s been a long time. He has she one some interest in me since we met, but had never made a move. I assumed he was looking to get laid and went with the expectations we would have sex. He ordered in food, we had wine, and watched a movie. He didn’t make a move the entire time I was there. I didn’t make one because I thought maybe I was misreading and he just wanted to hangout. He wants to hangout again but I really don’t know what to think about the situation. I gave him many opportunities to make a move. I’m very confused what he wants.

I was in this situation before a few times. I just assumed the guys weren’t that into me, but I experience sexual abuse growin up so also always wondered if I just sent the wrong signals. No solutions here just commiseration!

[Anonymous]

Maybe he likes you and just wants to get to know you better before making a move.

[Anonymous]

I had one like that. Turns out he was very introverted. Him asking me over was a huge deal. But I’ve also had me friends that are platonic. So can’t say. Hang out with him if you like and figure out if YOU’RE interested? You can always invite the conversation later too. But don’t rush into that bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was asked over to hang out with a male friend last night. We are not super good friends but I’ve always been attracted and interested in him. I don’t really sleep around but it’s been a long time. He has she one some interest in me since we met, but had never made a move. I assumed he was looking to get laid and went with the expectations we would have sex. He ordered in food, we had wine, and watched a movie. He didn’t make a move the entire time I was there. I didn’t make one because I thought maybe I was misreading and he just wanted to hangout. He wants to hangout again but I really don’t know what to think about the situation. I gave him many opportunities to make a move. I’m very confused what he wants.

It is amazing how times have changed. Maybe he wants to get to know you before you have sex? Sounds like a good guy to me!

[Anonymous]

What makes you think he wanted to get laid? Maybe he is lonely and just wants to hang out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think he wanted to get laid? Maybe he is lonely and just wants to hang out.

OP here. We have never hung out alone. We don’t even really talk. I assumed he was looking to get laid. Most guys aren’t going to call a woman that is just a downed or formed that they don’t really talk to “ just to hang out”. I don’t think he would invite me over if he wasn’t interested in me.

[Anonymous]

He's taking his time. That's fine. It's you who seems a little too hasty, in my opinion. Unless you were just looking for one thing, I suggest you simply enjoy hanging out with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think he wanted to get laid? Maybe he is lonely and just wants to hang out.

OP here. We have never hung out alone. We don’t even really talk. I assumed he was looking to get laid. Most guys aren’t going to call a woman that is just a downed or formed that they don’t really talk to “ just to hang out”. I don’t think he would invite me over if he wasn’t interested in me.

Most guys **you** date. Respectful men do this and don’t have issues. Show him what you’re used to. He will know by the treatment you expect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think he wanted to get laid? Maybe he is lonely and just wants to hang out.

Women like OP mess it up for women like me. Raise the bar. Friends are fine. Your company should be amazing without sex. I dunno.