Weird situation with guy friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think he wanted to get laid? Maybe he is lonely and just wants to hang out.

OP here. We have never hung out alone. We don’t even really talk. I assumed he was looking to get laid. Most guys aren’t going to call a woman that is just a downed or formed that they don’t really talk to “ just to hang out”. I don’t think he would invite me over if he wasn’t interested in me.

Most guys **you** date. Respectful men do this and don’t have issues. Show him what you’re used to. He will know by the treatment you expect.

OP here. I’ve never had sex with anyone I’ve never dated. I’m used to dates and not having sex until multiple dates. This doesn’t have anything to do with this situation. He’s not that close of a friend and has never showed any interest in dating me. Now he invites me over and doesn’t make a move.

[Anonymous]

So you have no platonic male friends? Interesting. Well, ask him what he is looking for. He will know what you’re about by what you expect. If you’re not interested in a friendship - fall back and leave him be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think he wanted to get laid? Maybe he is lonely and just wants to hang out.

OP here. We have never hung out alone. We don’t even really talk. I assumed he was looking to get laid. Most guys aren’t going to call a woman that is just a downed or formed that they don’t really talk to “ just to hang out”. I don’t think he would invite me over if he wasn’t interested in me.

Most guys **you** date. Respectful men do this and don’t have issues. Show him what you’re used to. He will know by the treatment you expect.

OP here. I’ve never had sex with anyone I’ve never dated. I’m used to dates and not having sex until multiple dates. This doesn’t have anything to do with this situation. He’s not that close of a friend and has never showed any interest in dating me. Now he invites me over and doesn’t make a move.

So are you offended? Disappointed? I don’t understand

[Anonymous]

Masks aren't magic, unless they are actual respirators. If you're in the same room with someone long enough, and they're infected, you will be too.

[Anonymous]

You have issues if you think a guy is uninterested because he didn't try to boink you on your first visit.

Sounds like you're the weird one.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he wanted to get to know you better?

If you’re ok being friends then see him again. If not, move on. There’s a chance it can grow from here but you need to slow your roll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think he wanted to get laid? Maybe he is lonely and just wants to hang out.

OP here. We have never hung out alone. We don’t even really talk. I assumed he was looking to get laid. Most guys aren’t going to call a woman that is just a downed or formed that they don’t really talk to “ just to hang out”. I don’t think he would invite me over if he wasn’t interested in me.

Maybe he’s interested in you and trying not to treat you like a whore, which apparently you expect. Perhaps his parents raised him right?

[Anonymous]

Is he gay?

[Anonymous]

He could be super anxious. If you’re DTF, why not make the first move yourself?

[Anonymous]

Not trying to be snarky here OP, but is there a possibility that this guy could be gay?

Or maybe not.
Perhaps he sees you as an authentic friend + truly enjoys the presence of your company.

Only time will tell.....

[Anonymous]

You sound super bright. Not sure how this is a "weird" situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky here OP, but is there a possibility that this guy could be gay?

Or maybe not.
Perhaps he sees you as an authentic friend + truly enjoys the presence of your company.

Only time will tell.....

seems unlikely

[Anonymous]

As a man, I can say that if a guy invites you over one-on-one, he is definitely physically attracted to you unless he's a complete weirdo. Also, that doesn't necessarily mean he likes your personality. He could be a little awkward, but also maybe something was off... like maybe he realized the smell was off when he got closer to you (we like the scent of people who are a good match for us genetically). But one thing is for sure... he approves of you visually. No normal guy would be caught dead inviting over a girl he doesn't find physically attractive unless he is super desperate, or again, a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I can say that if a guy invites you over one-on-one, he is definitely physically attracted to you unless he's a complete weirdo. Also, that doesn't necessarily mean he likes your personality. He could be a little awkward, but also maybe something was off... like maybe he realized the smell was off when he got closer to you (we like the scent of people who are a good match for us genetically). But one thing is for sure... he approves of you visually. No normal guy would be caught dead inviting over a girl he doesn't find physically attractive unless he is super desperate, or again, a weirdo.

This.

Guys don’t bother unless they are interested.

How old is he?

How old are you?

Back in the olden days, you didn’t have sex just because a guy invited you to watch a movie. Maybe you hooked up. And remember: that was before the Me, Too movement.

If you had fun and you are interested, why not invite him over?

[Anonymous]

You hung out with him once you did not have sex and you are in panic mode writing desperation threads. Wow!