DD Wants to dye her hair black?

[Anonymous]

15 y/o DD is a dark blonde. She has not fit in like her older siblings, does not do as well academically or with extracurriculars. Now she wants to dye her hair black with a streak of blonde in the front bangs and the back ends. I’m hesitant because she could make it harder for herself to fit in.

Is my concern valid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 y/o DD is a dark blonde. She has not fit in like her older siblings, does not do as well academically or with extracurriculars. Now she wants to dye her hair black with a streak of blonde in the front bangs and the back ends. I’m hesitant because she could make it harder for herself to fit in.

Is my concern valid?

Not your problem.

[Anonymous]

tell her goth is over ?

[Anonymous]

How would this affect her high school years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 y/o DD is a dark blonde. She has not fit in like her older siblings, does not do as well academically or with extracurriculars. Now she wants to dye her hair black with a streak of blonde in the front bangs and the back ends. I’m hesitant because she could make it harder for herself to fit in.

Is my concern valid?

No

[Anonymous]

Why would a teenager want to do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would a teenager want to do this?

Why wouldn't a teenager want to do this? You must not have teens or remember being one.

[Anonymous]

It may give her some confidence. Fitting in is less important than how she feels about herself. As a former weirdo, who now has a very average hairdo and color; I recommend permissiveness with appearance for teens. They’re figuring themselves out, and a little freedom goes a long way. She’ll feel supported too.

Let her know it’s hard to be strip black from blonde though, so it’s a big choice that may require big changes (like several haircuts and weird roots) to grow out.

[Anonymous]

I would just make sure she's aware that it can be challenging to undo a black dye job if she changes her mind.

From what I understand, the process of going back to her original color or another color can be expensive, time consuming and very damaging to the hair. Maybe encourage her to chat with someone who does hair for a living if you have any friends or family.

[Anonymous]

Adding, it doesn’t sound super dramatic tbh. If she can get it done professionally to start it will look much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would a teenager want to do this?

Why wouldn't a teenager want to do this? You must not have teens or remember being one.

Seriously. Beats the blue color most of them have done lately.

[Anonymous]

This makes me want to scream. It's hair. Let her express herself.

[Anonymous]

DD has had streaks of various colors since middle school and recently dyed her hair almost black. I would recommend against solid black dye unless she gets it done at a salon since it can look really harsh, but hey, it's hair! It grows out. I am MUCH happier to let DD experiment with hair color/style than with more permanent things like piercings (not that I judge that either, fwiw). These are pretty harmless forms of expression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes me want to scream. It's hair. Let her express herself.

Agree! It’s just hair!!!

[Anonymous]

OP Here. I’m listening. That’s why I’m asking. It not easy being a single father. Thx