Father died and disputes over assets
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Anonymous
| My father died and was married to a woman when he died. They had recently reconciled after splitting up after only 2 months of marriage (together for 3 years prior) in large part because my father told me he didn't want to die alone, although I know he did love her. To me she seems like a crazy opportunistic woman she also left my dad after only 2 months of marriage once she was no longer dependent on him financially (she got a small amount of disability finally approved with my Dad's help). To give you a picture of their relationship she didn't know basic things about him like his parents names for the obituary, my Dad said repeatedly that he didn't fully trust her etc. Now there are some small items my Dad told me he wanted me to have many times over the past year. Now she is denying giving me those things. Really it's small personal property that while I am really annoyed I am not surprised she is not giving and the thing I am most interested in are his pictures and his ashes. Things are getting really ugly. Trying to read up on probate his assets probably total no more than $2500 and I paid $2100 for his cremation costs. I'm not sure if he had a will, he mentioned several times paperwork he wanted to go over with me but never got the chance. I know they did not have a joint bank account and I'm almost positive I would be the beneficiary of it. But he's super poor and I doubt it would be much money maybe $100 at most. He didn't own any vehicles or homes. I'm really not sure where to go from here and feeling a lot of anger towards her in addition to the loss of my father. Any advice? |
Anonymous
| He lived in Florida btw. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry OP. With no will or written intent you don't have any recourse. Let it go or hire a lawyer -- those are your choices. |
Anonymous
| If he was married, everything goes to her unless there is a will. Just move on. These are just things and you will always have your memories. I'm sorry for your loss. |
Anonymous
| Sadly you have no recourse or standing against his wife. |
Anonymous
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Internet says if no will, where the deceased has children from a prior relationship, spouse gets half and child(ren) get half.
“if not all of your surviving children were with your spouse or you each have children with other people, your spouse will only receive half of the estate. In turn, the other half goes to your children.“ |
Anonymous
| 9:55 again. I’m sorry for your loss, OP. Are you able to go to the house and ask for the things in person? |
Anonymous
Sorry -missed that this is Florida. PP is right that you probably have some rights. But, it will be expensive to pursue. I hope you can find peace. |
Anonymous
Yes I am going in person this coming week. I don't even know what bank he used. I suspect he has a will but I don't have a copy so I need to get access from her to look through his belongings. |
Anonymous
| If going in person, go down with a lot of available storage on your phone and see if wife will let you take photos of all the photos and anything else that means something to you. If you are only child, I guess you could ask for the photos but if you take photos of them at least you have that. |
Anonymous
| If she’s broke you can probably offer her a few thousand and she’ll give you what she wants. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
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Why would you be the beneficiary of anything? You can’t even get physical possessions unless she dies and leaves them to you. It all goes to his wife.
This is why older men shouldn’t remarry |
Anonymous
| OP you have more years memory of him than she had. You don't need things. |
Anonymous
Sad reality here. I work in death care and we see this all the time. At least you didn’t fight over the remains like many do. Late in life wives love to hold that for ransom. |