Father died and disputes over assets

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am sorry for your loss.

It seems as though you are making your father's wife the source of all that is wrong, which may not be right.

No one, and I mean no one not even adult kids, knows what really goes on between a couple - their private conversations, their ultimate wishes, their deepest fears and their promises to each other. I agree

"This woman" as you refer to her was with your father for years and has her own side of the story. You may not know all the details of their relationship. If your father was poor as you claim then she certainly wasn't a gold digger. Yes, definitely was a gold digger. She was literally homeless and my father helped her so much. Gold digger to me doesn't mean they have to have millions for that to apply- it is an incredibly opportunistic and a user

How would you describe your relationship with her? Did you give her a chance and try to get to know her? Did you disparage her to your father, making it hard on him? tried to get to know her, she was ok but based on how she treated my dad many times don't like her. now i can't stand her

You made it clear in your post that you do not like her, consider her the source of all ills and claim it's getting nasty. Why is that? You even seem to resent that your father gave his WIFE help to get disability which she was eligible for. should have never married her, she's an awful person. just total trash.

Have you approached her respectfully (she is grieving too) and asked her if she would please provide you with any of your family photos as it would mean a lot to you and know your father would have liked you to have them? Yes, and she is evil

I'm sorry for your loss but I'm also sorry for this woman your father loved. I am not sorry for her anymore. not how she is behaving. No sympathy.

As aggravating as it is, it will almost certainly be cheaper to pay her for the items rather than pay an estate lawyer to enforce your interstate inheritance rights. Just remember that you never have to see this lady again after this awful experience. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am sorry for your loss.

It seems as though you are making your father's wife the source of all that is wrong, which may not be right.

No one, and I mean no one not even adult kids, knows what really goes on between a couple - their private conversations, their ultimate wishes, their deepest fears and their promises to each other. I agree

"This woman" as you refer to her was with your father for years and has her own side of the story. You may not know all the details of their relationship. If your father was poor as you claim then she certainly wasn't a gold digger. Yes, definitely was a gold digger. She was literally homeless and my father helped her so much. Gold digger to me doesn't mean they have to have millions for that to apply- it is an incredibly opportunistic and a user

How would you describe your relationship with her? Did you give her a chance and try to get to know her? Did you disparage her to your father, making it hard on him? tried to get to know her, she was ok but based on how she treated my dad many times don't like her. now i can't stand her

You made it clear in your post that you do not like her, consider her the source of all ills and claim it's getting nasty. Why is that? You even seem to resent that your father gave his WIFE help to get disability which she was eligible for. should have never married her, she's an awful person. just total trash.

Have you approached her respectfully (she is grieving too) and asked her if she would please provide you with any of your family photos as it would mean a lot to you and know your father would have liked you to have them? Yes, and she is evil

I'm sorry for your loss but I'm also sorry for this woman your father loved. I am not sorry for her anymore. not how she is behaving. No sympathy.

Based on your attitude, it sounds like you got what you deserved. Which is nothing. I don't think stepmom is the one who is trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am sorry for your loss.

It seems as though you are making your father's wife the source of all that is wrong, which may not be right.

No one, and I mean no one not even adult kids, knows what really goes on between a couple - their private conversations, their ultimate wishes, their deepest fears and their promises to each other. I agree

"This woman" as you refer to her was with your father for years and has her own side of the story. You may not know all the details of their relationship. If your father was poor as you claim then she certainly wasn't a gold digger. Yes, definitely was a gold digger. She was literally homeless and my father helped her so much. Gold digger to me doesn't mean they have to have millions for that to apply- it is an incredibly opportunistic and a user

How would you describe your relationship with her? Did you give her a chance and try to get to know her? Did you disparage her to your father, making it hard on him? tried to get to know her, she was ok but based on how she treated my dad many times don't like her. now i can't stand her

You made it clear in your post that you do not like her, consider her the source of all ills and claim it's getting nasty. Why is that? You even seem to resent that your father gave his WIFE help to get disability which she was eligible for. should have never married her, she's an awful person. just total trash.

Have you approached her respectfully (she is grieving too) and asked her if she would please provide you with any of your family photos as it would mean a lot to you and know your father would have liked you to have them? Yes, and she is evil

I'm sorry for your loss but I'm also sorry for this woman your father loved. I am not sorry for her anymore. not how she is behaving. No sympathy.

Based on your attitude, it sounds like you got what you deserved. Which is nothing. I don't think stepmom is the one who is trash.

NP here and I totally disagree. What kind of person won’t give up family photos that aren’t even of her family? There is no reason to keep OPs baby photos except out of malice or a desire for cash. That is not the behavior of a good person.

OP, offer her a set amount for the photos, another set amount for the ashes and be prepared to pay double for one, then walk away. I am truly sorry for your loss.